Misconceptions about Homosexuality

[Scented Nectar]

The "lesbians" in pornos, both women are sexy, hot babes. They really do not exist.

While open to statistics showing otherwise, I'm inclined to agree. Back in my dykey days (most of the 80s), I found lesbian porn (when sneaking away from most of my anti-porn friends to view it) to be disappointing, and that's an understatement. The few of us who did admit to checking out some lezporn would laugh about how no real lesbian would let a woman with long scary fingernails like those anywhere near them. Also, none of us were attracted to overly femmed up women, so they were boring anyways.

In lesbian relationships there is always one who is "Butch" and one who is "feminine". One always assumes the role of "man", there is none where both of the girls are feminine.

Not true at all. There are a few who fall into the role playing stuff, but most that I remember from back then, couples often looked the same as each other, especially as to how femmy/butch they were, hair length, clothing, etc.

Lesbians are all man haters.

If by lesbians, you are referring to only those in the core cult of politically radical lesbian feminist separatism, then yes, I agree. I was once in that cult, being pulled in initially by both lesbianism (I was curious and found some of them attractive), and by the politics of the very real sexism that still exists in the world. The cultlike aspects came into play when I totally swallowed the dogma of ALL men being responsible for ALL evil in the universe. We were perfect and pure, while anything born with a penis was somehow by nature evil, malicious and the enemy. Femmy fashion and make-up were frowned on as giving in to patriarchal control. About 99% of the women I knew were either neutral on the role scale (androgenous) to somewhat masculine in style. Since I always found plaid flannel shirts quite comfortable and pleasing, I pretty much found my fashion peer group comfort zone. The cult had me by the ovaries with sex, politics and fashion aesthetics.