I need some advice

[CapnAwesome]

How do you deal privately with someone that publicly shames you? If she was mature and came to me privately it would be a different matter.

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Just to give a bit more detail on the situation, thios woman has been noted several times for being openly disruptive to the class, and I demonstrated this afternoon that those "weird questions" I have helped prepare me aptly for my job when I was double jacking with a agent on the floor today and was forced to take his call do to technical issues. Something most in my class have openly said they could not do. Also quitting is not a option do to my financial situation.

You can be the mature one and go to her privately. At least it should be your first option. It seems unfair to hold someone to a standard that you yourself are not upholding. If that didn't go well then you could deal with them with HR or whatever. What you did was try to get her fired or what could result in her being fired. That's an overreaction. The mature thing is definitely to try to deal with it yourself first. You go up and say 'what you said really upset me and I wonder what I've done to offend you.' That doesn't mean it's your only option. If she says "Fuck off weirdo" Then maybe you can seek other options, but I would never try to get someone fired as a first option.

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Wait... so Lemon privately going to HR was worse than her publicly shaming him? I totally disagree with that part.

I don't really see how you disagree with that. Does that woman not need to support herself also? Lemon may not have felt great about that for a minute but what he did seems to be an attempt to get someone fired just because he felt embarrassed. Who cares what she thinks. Like someone else said, if the situation is being accurately reported everyone probably thinks she's an asshole. How do you know what her fiscal situation is? What if someone did that to you? It seems like an overreaction to me is all. Sometimes it's amazing to me how quick some of you are to judge someone who we only have one sided information on. Maybe that woman is having private struggles at home? Maybe she suffers from some sort of depression or self confidence problem of her own and her way of dealing with it is to lash out. You don't know based on one paragraph that someone wrote on the internet. Lemon doesn't know because he hasn't attempted to have a private conversation with the person and instead attempted to get someone else to deal with his own problem. Going behind someone's back to try to get them fired is way worse when you can just talk to them privately and tell them how you feel about what they said. At the very least that should be your first option.