(September 21, 2014 at 2:28 am)CapnAwesome Wrote: Also to the part about you not publically shaming her, you are, on the internet. You insulted her appearance, and basically came of as just as insulting as she is. What if someone from your work finds this thread. It's hardly impossible.
To us, she is an abstraction. To his coworkers, Lemon is a real person. Shame is an interpersonal dynamic, and those conditions aren't present here because none of us know her.
Put another way, she would only feel shame if she knows she's the butt of his derogatory comments, and cared about our opinions. Neither of those conditions obtain here, while both of them obtain in her treatment of Lemon.
