Differing degrees of rape?

[lifesagift]

I don't want a row with an angry person... I want to discuss, and understand. So no, it's not good enough.

I'm not committing the crime, I want to form a realistic opinion of a heinous crime...

Maybe I'm confused about something or missing something important. I'm not an angry person. I am curious though, do you honestly think a woman who has been raped is going to explain to you (a stranger) how it feels to be raped on a public thread over the internet? Or am I confused? I get confused sometimes.

I'm asking for opinions in a debate, not testimony from a victim.. you chose what you want to say and I'll respect any answer