How can you say "take responsibility for your life"?

[Brian37]

I am adopted. I never understood my behavior in context when I was young. My adoptive mom and dad were stern teacher and boys were never allowed to be sensitive and I was. I far too often internalized other people's baggage as being my fault and tried too hard to fit in. I was emotional and full of hormones and angst ridden.

I really did not understand until I met my biological family that my sensitivity and anxiety and depression ran in the family because I could see my behaviors in them.

Get professional help, not church shrinks or priests, they are there to prey off of your pain and give you a crutch to gain a recruit. It is important to know that having problems with how your brain functions is quite normal. But you simply do not let it go. You get professional help. You also accept yourself and don't let people get to you. It sounds hard when you are young, but when you get out on your own you get to chose who you hang out with and date or marry. That is when you get to surround yourself with positive people who will not try to make you a clone of them.

I am dirt poor, I have ups and downs in my life and everyone will have ups and downs. But you can get through those down times by having friends and support and help, it doesn't have to be just those in your house. It can be outside friends and online friends.