Need some rather personal advice

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I would also recommend online dating, probably on a site geared towards disabled people.

I can relate somewhat to your situation. I wanted to find love, but came to the realisation that I am so picky about the kind of woman I would want to be with, that just hoping to meet one was going to be near impossible. I won't bore you with the details, but I'm not talking about any superficial things, but rather stances on important issues. Things that matter to me too much to compromise about in a relationship.

Since meeting my wonderful wife (online), I got struck down very quickly with chronic fatigue syndrome, and have been off work with it ever since. Because we can't afford any sort of care, she does a lot to look after me as well as looking after the house, when I am too tired to do things myself. She is partially my carer, but it in no way detracts from our relationship. When she is ill I step up and look after her too, I dig deep and find the energy to do things for her in the short term, then I crash when she gets better.

So I don't think what you seek is impossible, and although your care situation is very different to mine, I don't think that a potential partner who really loves you would be unable to deal with your situation.

It's best in my opinion to be totally up front about it all on your profile (if you go the online route) so that you know anyone who contacts you is already partially on board.