(January 2, 2015 at 11:23 am)Losty Wrote: I just wanted to add in here. I am shocked at the number of people who were against the vacation. I see nothing wrong with a person who is in a stable committed marriage going off for a week with some friends. No matter how much you love someone I can only imagine after several years you need a break to remember that you are not simply so and so's spouse but you are also your own person. Take a break to be just you for a week with old friends you haven't seen since college. In a trusting marriage, you should be able to do that and come home rejuvenated to a spouse who has also had a nice break and is happy to have you home. I feel like so many marriages fail because people think you're supposed to get married and then forevermore be Mr. And Mrs. Couple that never does anything separate. Also, if you can't trust your spouse for a week without you, you probably shouldn't be married to them in the first place.For me it's not a simple yes/no issue.
If I told my wife I wanted to go on a golf trip for a long weekend with some married men from church, she'd be fine with it.
If I told her I wanted to go to Las Vegas with some divorced guys from work, she'd likely object.
For most people, vacation time and money are limited resources. I don't know OP's situation. Maybe he's wealthy and can take as much time off as he likes. But for most people, a week-long international trip will use up significant vacation time and money.
As to trust, no one's perfect, and it's a good idea to limit opportunities for temptation when apart from your spouse no matter how strong the relationship may be.
