She Keeps Sucking The Life Out of Me

[Kitty Galore]

Again, I don't think you get to decide the metrics of my marriage Alpha.

You've been describing differences between us that is not, despite your jokepost, an issue of definition.

Words have meanings. Maybe your wife accepts it, but if so, that means she's agreed to a certain amount of infidelity in the marriage.

-You feel a compulsion that I don't.

You have a compulsion and act on it.

-You have suspicions about yourself that I don't.

Because you've lowered the bar to fit your actions.

-You employ (and advocate for) a strategy that I don't

Yes, I advocate and employ the strategy of staying home and having sex with my wife, rather than paying a stripper to grind on my crotch.

(I see no value...

I guess my wife's a lot better at it than yours is.

I'm not sure how it's supposed to work -

Which is why you go to strippers, as they'll act like you know what's going on as long as you pay them.

and you've failed to explain how it works

This isn't Area 69. Go there for some pointers.

Alpha, I understand your point of view, and appreciate it is what you feel is right for your relationship. I have no qualms with it. I also have no qualms about what other couples see fit in their relationships, as long as both parties are equally happy. Unconventional relationships are not "wrong", they are just different from what is right for you. I bolded the above because I feel you are setting everyone's bar by what YOUR bar is. Everyone's bar is different. Just my two cents. I don't agree with the agreements all couples have in their relationships, but I respect them enough to make their own choices. I respect yours, as an individual. I respect mine because we are both equally happy. I don't know about others, and honestly it is none of my business. I don't judge.