My biological father died in 1990. I was 14. We held the memorial service (my mother hated the word "funeral") at a Unitarian Universalist church. I actually was a UU at that time. Even though I left the UU church in 1998 over my sense of their politics, I still find many of them great people with good intentions and ideas.
Our UU pastor at First UU of San Diego presided. Some very old friends of my biofather showed, which was very neat. Several spoke, There was some sort of music. Other than that, my memories are very dim, but it was good.
The last funeral I went to was for another UU. One I barely knew. This was in rural NC at a funeral chapel. I found it a bit depressing, but there are nicer facilities. I think there was a somewhat freer invocation of the god concept at that one.
I'd rather mine be at a funeral chapel. I would want it known first and foremost that while I don't hate all religious people, I was an atheist, and that was the center of who I was. I would like the theme of atheism to permeate the ceremony, however I would also like my loved ones to speak freely.
I don't really know any atheist music, per se, but "Intervention" by a favorite band Arcade Fire, seems to allude to it ("working for the church while your family dies"). That song would be a nice closure to my funeral.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F7UtxUlpEP0
Our UU pastor at First UU of San Diego presided. Some very old friends of my biofather showed, which was very neat. Several spoke, There was some sort of music. Other than that, my memories are very dim, but it was good.
The last funeral I went to was for another UU. One I barely knew. This was in rural NC at a funeral chapel. I found it a bit depressing, but there are nicer facilities. I think there was a somewhat freer invocation of the god concept at that one.
I'd rather mine be at a funeral chapel. I would want it known first and foremost that while I don't hate all religious people, I was an atheist, and that was the center of who I was. I would like the theme of atheism to permeate the ceremony, however I would also like my loved ones to speak freely.
I don't really know any atheist music, per se, but "Intervention" by a favorite band Arcade Fire, seems to allude to it ("working for the church while your family dies"). That song would be a nice closure to my funeral.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F7UtxUlpEP0
"For me, it is far better to grasp the Universe as it really is than to persist in delusion, however satisfying and reassuring." - Carl Sagan
