In Our Overly Rational But Not Unemotional House. . .

[Thumpalumpacus]

That's different from my marriage. My wife and I are actually quite emotional people, and I'm never as calm and rational as I would like to be in our arguments. Life to me feels a lot at times like I'm just treading water and trying to stay afloat, and that often times causes me to lash out more than I should. Not that the arguments get really heated or anything. We both just get emotionally involved in them.

Although, I will say that we've both made great strides in the past few years. We are also house looking, and that's caused some other issues between me and the mother-in-law. I'm quite proud of both the wife and myself at how we've been able to calmly and rationally discuss the situation.

I hear you. I recently went through a breakup fueled in part by an inability to address problems in a rational manner, on the part of both of us. Our arguments got heated, and while I can say that she should have been more rational, I will say even more importantly that I should have been less emotional in responding to her points, no matter how unfair I thought them to be. As well as hurting her, I let myself down.

Odd, this old, and still seeing the need to grow.