(March 19, 2015 at 4:48 pm)Clueless Morgan Wrote:(March 19, 2015 at 1:54 pm)rexbeccarox Wrote: I've definitely thought of what my motives are and whether I can hurt Dale in this process. That is absolutely the last thing I want to do. That's why it's hard for me to try to contact a family member. I just don't want to make Dale's life worse; only better.
If one of the considerations holding you back is that you don't want to hurt Dale or open old wounds, contacting a family member might be a very good route to take. Depending on who the person is and how close that are to Dale, they could be a great way to gauge his openness to reconnecting rather than just getting a direct line to Dale himself and sending him this out of the blue message straight from you. It would save Dale some heartache if he decides that he doesn't want to pursue a rekindled friendship in that he doesn't have to put you down "to your face" as it were.
Of course, this depends on who you are able to get in contact with and how this person handles the situation. They might simply give you Dale's email address or something.
That's a very good point. His mom has a Facebook account, and I know she would be the best family member to go through. As we're not friends, though, I have no idea how active she is.
Does anyone know what happens to PMs on Facebook if you're not friends with the person you're PMing?
