Trying to Decide Something

[rexbeccarox]

Before I get into my opinion on this I'm going out line a few assumptions that factor into what I'm thinking.
1. That this man is reasonably good looking and that he is very intelligent.

Yes, and yes. I wouldn't have gotten engaged to someone I wasn't attracted to or who wasn't intelligent.

2. that the sex in Europe was amazing.

Well, we only had sex in Europe twice. I had my friend with me and we were staying in youth hostels. We had a crap-ton of great sex when we were living together in Australia, though.

Now the reason I outline those assumptions is because those are the things that stick with us even when we forget other things. Our brains choose to remember the good things over the bad, and 14 years is a long time to remember. So you may want to consider that you may romantizing your memories without being really aware of it.

Well, it's only been eleven years since we've seen each other, and you'd mostly be right, but I have real-time evidence of what was going on: my crazily-detailed journals. I'm relatively confident I'm remembering things correctly, romantic and not.

So really dig down and think what feeling this may cause to relive and weither you want those feelings or not. I also know that relationships between people with mental health issues can be explosive and intense affairs, so be prepared for the possibility of him or his family being resentFul, as well as the possibility of overwhelming emotions on your part.

His family, even in the worst of it, was supportive to both of us. I remember having a two-hour convo with his mum after we decided to break up. She wanted us both to be happy; would have preferred it if we were together. It was just really hard for us.

You also have to consider the possibility of emotions it could set off in him, given that he may still have a highly impulsive personality.
I'm not saying don't do it, your capable and intelligent woman, but think hard on what this can do to you and what you hope to gain.

I am definitely considering that; his emotional health is the main reason I'm having trouble with this. I don't want him to have any bad feelings ever at all.

Thanks Lemon