Sins

[daver49]

That is the way life is.

I'm sorry, no adult should ever subject a child to that sort of crap. That is not and should never be "the way life is."

I've been through a lot of crap in my time and honestly, this sort of thing to do to a child, to make them carry that mentality their entire lives is just bullshit.

Why apologize? What you say expresses your current feelings about it.
But, understand, as for you... it was a burden that only existed in him as a "memory"...thoughts and feelings about an event that happened in the past. But he identified with them, thus giving them power over him in the present. They defined who he thought he was.."a bad boy" and he suffered long-term guilt and shame.

The only thing we ever have is right now. Period. So, why suffer now? Embrace the present, that is where you and everything else in the universe(s?) exists and will ever exist. Remember the saying, "He is not the God of the dead, but of the living." You don't live in the past or the future...so get out of them.
Past and future thoughts and feelings don't have to cause regret or anxiety if they are called the demons they are...ghosts...non-entities. View them as such and a great burden is gone. Pax, Peace, blah blah blah...