(March 22, 2015 at 12:02 am)Drich Wrote:(March 20, 2015 at 2:04 am)rexbeccarox Wrote: Thanks for the info on google. Other than that, what a shitty thing to say. Obviously, I've considered the fact that he might be with someone else.
No, actually, I never wanted to get married, except to Dale. I still don't, and probably wouldn't; even to Dale. As for moving forward, that's not a problem, thanks.
Obviously, you missed the part where I kept complete journals of the entire time. Of everything: the good, the bad, and the downright nasty.
I have no idea what any of this has to do with my situation.
My point? I'm not looking for "someone"... not even Dale. If it were to work out that way, it would be awesome. My first and only actual goal in this is to apologize, and possibly give him a nice walk down memory lane if he'd like it.
Don't project.
I can think of a few "maybes" for you too.
Yeah. Thanks.
Look: I'm all for constructive criticism. My sister had a few tough things to say to me tonight about all this, and I'm taking her advice, which after the tough things she said, was basically, "you need to do this, Becca." I'm not blind and I'm not stupid. I have no scenario in my brain as to how this will end up going down.
You, Drich, have to passive-aggressively dig, as that's your personality. I don't appreciate it. Others give honest advice; you're just looking to be as mean as possible while trying to look like you're being nice. No one buys it, especially not I.
Funny I fancied myself as combative aggressive person.. Like for instance if I were looking to 'dig' I would/could easily go line by line and do that very thing. Because I generally do not have any issue telling people anything. But rather here I thought I was very delicately putting my two cents in, by directing you to move on. Because even if you are the same person you were 15 years ago, he most likly is not. however if both of you remained in the shallow end of the pool most of your adult lives, and did not grow intelectually in the last 15 years. then you'd better snap this guy up, because you'll never be happy with anyone else.
Believe it or not, I did spend several years of my life counseling 'single' people, (even got a few including myself married, there are even a dozen or so human beings on this planet that would not be here otherwise if not for those efforts.) and in that time never once was it a good idea to look up an old flame. That said, if you want people to just pat you on the back, and tell you what you want to hear, I'm sure you can get at least 1/2 a dozen pages of platitudes, and 'do what you feel is right' crap, from just about everyone else. I was just looking to try and bring some balance and common sense to this thread.. But, its your life and your thread, do what you will. My light bill gets paid no matter what you decide to do.
Dude Seriously. Get over yourself.
To-morrow, and to-morrow, and to-morrow,
Creeps in this petty pace from day to day,
To the last syllable of recorded time;
And all our yesterdays have lighted fools
The way to dusty death. Out, out, brief candle!
Life's but a walking shadow, a poor player,
That struts and frets his hour upon the stage,
And then is heard no more. It is a tale
Told by an idiot, full of sound and fury,
Signifying nothing.
Creeps in this petty pace from day to day,
To the last syllable of recorded time;
And all our yesterdays have lighted fools
The way to dusty death. Out, out, brief candle!
Life's but a walking shadow, a poor player,
That struts and frets his hour upon the stage,
And then is heard no more. It is a tale
Told by an idiot, full of sound and fury,
Signifying nothing.
