Being gay is a fetish.

[abaris]

But just so there are no misunderstandings, I am referring to two different potential choices in this post; one is the bisexual choice which may only apply to those with pre-existing attraction to both sexes, and the other is the initial fixation phase that I believe occurs in adolescence or thereabouts and from which the resulting attractions may be the basis for the bisexual choice, or not as the case may be. But in both cases if there was any conscious choice involved, it was uninformed, and therefore something that should not be attacked as if it were an informed choice.

You do understand that there are many shades of gray between totally straight and totally gay? Anti gay people usually see it as a black and white issue and if they are to feel any attraction to their own sex, they claim it to be a choice to be made when in fact they're at lleast mildly bisexual themselves.

When I was 14 I was attracted to one boy in my class. That never happened before and never afterwards, so I'm 90something percent straight. But the fact remains that there was an attraction at one time with one person.