Your love song/theme

[dahrling]

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I guess you're not a romantic 
Better for you, less expectations 
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Actually, I am romantic.  I am happily married, and have been for over 20 years.  I regard my choice of wife as the best decision I ever made.  It is just that I do not associate love and romance with a particular song.

As for the song to which I linked, I did not think of it from reading your opening post, but from looking at responses that you got from others, at least one of which involves a song that is more sexually suggestive than suggestive of romance or love.


My advice, not that you have asked me for it, is to find someone who you like platonically, as a friend, and then, after the friendship is solid, develop the relationship into romance.  Sexual attraction, by itself, is lust, not romance or love, and so that is not going to be a reliable way to find love.  But friendship is a kind of love, and so going from friendship to romantic love is a smaller step.  This will also serve you well if you marry (or have a roughly equivalent relationship), because even if you have sex 4 hours a day, you are not having sex 20 hours a day, and you need to get along during those 20 hours or your marriage is not likely to last.

I'm always seeking advice 
I think that the idea of a friendship blossoming into romance is very beautiful   
The problem is that many times one of the two people in said friendship will develop these feelings first and the other one will take more time or not develop romantic feelings for their friend at all and their friendship can be ruined. 
I prefer to put friendships before romance   

But I don't really believe one can choose who to fall in love with. I still think that depends on many outside factors beyond our control.