Your love song/theme

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Just One More Minute - Weird Al Yankovic

I've heard of Weird Al before. Now I know why 

I'm always seeking advice   
I think that the idea of a friendship blossoming into romance is very beautiful   
The problem is that many times one of the two people in said friendship will develop these feelings first and the other one will take more time or not develop romantic feelings for their friend at all and their friendship can be ruined. 
I prefer to put friendships before romance   

But I don't really believe one can choose who to fall in love with. I still think that depends on many outside factors beyond our control.  

In my case, my wife and I were friends for about a year before we decided to add romance to the relationship.  We were best friends at the time.  About a year later, we were married, and have been happy together ever since.

If one of us had not been ready for romance, we simply would have stayed friends.  I personally think people worry too much about damaging their friendships with romance.  Unless one is a jerk to one's romantic partner (which is really a contradiction in terms, as being a jerk isn't romantic), I don't see why it should ruin anything.

Can I ask, how did it come up? How does one decide to transform their platonic relationship into a romantic one? 

I think that many people suffer when they love their friend but that love is unrequited. You still have to see them often and pretend like you don't have these feelings for them, even though you do.
And I think it gets a lot worse once your friend finds a partner. Then you might open yourself to them and they might begin to feel awkward around you. 
Not to mention the pain of the rejection itself