RE: Ask a bored, formerly Jewish, overly opinionated submissive
May 18, 2015 at 2:07 pm
(This post was last modified: May 18, 2015 at 2:07 pm by Saxmoof.)
A fellow submissive! I will now go off on my own rant but phrased as questions so as to technically not hijack the thread
Does fifty shades of grey annoy you as much as me? It's clearly written by someone who has no knowledge or interest in BDSM and aimed at people in that same boat. It gives the impression that Dominants are dominant because they were abused as children and Submissives are submissive because they have tragically low self-esteem - this is the way a vanilla person would try to rationalise BDSM, by thinking to themselves, "what would make me want to hurt someone/be hurt by someone" when really there is no rational explanation - it's just an innate desire we have. It pissed me off so much when there was all this media hype around it and you had all these vanilla people passing off their ignorant opinions on fluffy day time talk shows, they could have just asked a dominant or submissive onto their show - we're real people, not just a porn category! It wouldn't have been so hard to find one of us
Does this annoy you as much as me (as it does me I should say, obviously i'm not annoying at all)? People seem to think dominance/submission is something you do rather than something you are - I had submissive thoughts and feelings towards girls and teachers in school before I was in double digits, before I knew what submission was - I didn't get bored with normal sex and then graduate to "kinky sex" whatever that means. Submission is just the natural way i'm attracted to women, I couldn't look at a woman i'm attracted to and not want to place them on a pedestal above me and devote myself to them even if I tried really, really hard
That is all
Does fifty shades of grey annoy you as much as me? It's clearly written by someone who has no knowledge or interest in BDSM and aimed at people in that same boat. It gives the impression that Dominants are dominant because they were abused as children and Submissives are submissive because they have tragically low self-esteem - this is the way a vanilla person would try to rationalise BDSM, by thinking to themselves, "what would make me want to hurt someone/be hurt by someone" when really there is no rational explanation - it's just an innate desire we have. It pissed me off so much when there was all this media hype around it and you had all these vanilla people passing off their ignorant opinions on fluffy day time talk shows, they could have just asked a dominant or submissive onto their show - we're real people, not just a porn category! It wouldn't have been so hard to find one of us
Does this annoy you as much as me (as it does me I should say, obviously i'm not annoying at all)? People seem to think dominance/submission is something you do rather than something you are - I had submissive thoughts and feelings towards girls and teachers in school before I was in double digits, before I knew what submission was - I didn't get bored with normal sex and then graduate to "kinky sex" whatever that means. Submission is just the natural way i'm attracted to women, I couldn't look at a woman i'm attracted to and not want to place them on a pedestal above me and devote myself to them even if I tried really, really hard
That is all
“The larger the group, the more toxic, the more of your beauty as an individual you have to surrender for the sake of group thought. And when you suspend your individual beauty you also give up a lot of your humanity. You will do things in the name of a group that you would never do on your own. Injuring, hurting, killing, drinking are all part of it, because you've lost your identity, because you now owe your allegiance to this thing that's bigger than you are and that controls you.” - George Carlin
