(May 31, 2015 at 11:34 am)Drich Wrote:(May 30, 2015 at 8:50 pm)Nope Wrote: Whatever you experienced, you own strength of will and, perhaps support from your friends, got you through your difficulties. You are underestimating yourself.
Many people live through very difficult times in their lives without believing in your god. They survive because of their own determination and perhaps the assistance of friends, relatives and the medical profession.
I was actually referring to helping my wife though her addiction. 'We' quickly ran through all the help and mercy our friends had for us. We burned through several trips to 10k dollar rehab facilities which had her parents turn from us. This also triggered an 8 year shunning between my dad and I because he was convinced she had me hooked on heroin as well. My mother didn't turn, she just stopped showing up. Then she started to steal from our company and nearly bankrupted us. Then she started selling things like her wedding bann and everything that was not nailed down. So I essence she turned on m as well. I carried us like this working 12-15 hours a day all the while making sure she got to meetings and methodone clinic and then. Starting over when she fail. Over and over again maybe a full year maybe a little longer. Then she OD'ed in the bathroom of a barns and noble. She was found blue on the floor with the needle in her arm not breathing... That was the end for me the lies, the drugs, the stealing, the hatred she had for me, the isolation was all too much.. I prayed for mercy and I prayed for God to take this responsibility from me...
He did in the way of the sheriffs department at 3 am.. Once she was bailed out we had a long talk with both of us among God to take this addiction from her. It was like someone turned off a switch.. After her detox it was like a completely different person.. That was almost 10 years ago now.
When I said God uses the rains to strip you of everything that is keeping you from seeing him, he will do exactly that. You will know that what ever happens comes from Him. Not because it happens but how it all comes about.
You stuck out a bad situation with your wife and got her help. She almost died and decided to turn her life around. That isn't miraculous.
Of course, you lost everything because you chose to remain in a very toxic relationship.
I am glad that your wife is free of drugs and your life is better but the only thing religion did was help provide you with a crutch. That is one of the reasons why I don't usually try to deconvert people Perhaps you needed a make believe friend to get you through that period in your life but that doesn't mean that god is real.
Drich, give credit to yourself and your wife.
