(July 6, 2015 at 4:14 pm)Pyrrho Wrote: I'd be flattered if a gay man said that he fancied me. But I would feel quite differently if he did not take "no" for an answer with something along the lines of Rev. Rye's experiences occurring.
The only time that a gay man propositioned me was a total stranger. People who know me somehow know I am not gay. Not having good gaydar myself, I am not sure how it is that people know such things, but people who know me at all always know I am not gay. So I am not offended at all that gay men who know me do not say they fancy me. What would be the point of them saying such a thing when they know it isn't going anywhere?
Now, if a lesbian said she fancied me, I would really be flattered. (Of course, that happening at all would suggest that she is really bisexual, not a lesbian.) It still would not go anywhere, as I am happily married and intend to stay that way. Still, lesbians have said that they liked me (in a platonic way), and I am pleased about that. It is the most one can reasonably expect.
I feel kind of awkward talking about this now after Rev Rye shared his experience. If people don't take no for an answer then it becomes harassment, or worse. I know what that's like because I have had three people obsessed with me and one of them still sends me friend requests on Facebook from time to time to which I keep declining. I could block him but I don't want to antagonize him - rather just let him assume in his deluded thinking that I missed his request. Maybe he'll get the message one day. What I was really talking about was just flirting among friends, not strangers, and as I said, only if they're game.
