Okay but I don't think there's any way for you to have your cake and eat it too. It's either you disable them or not. If you want to find responses to your activity, there's a handy link at the top of the page that says "my posts". Click on that. It shows any posts that you have replied to or started and it bolds the ones with new posts/responses. Check it out. I think you'll be mildly satisfied with the results

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