A bit late to the party, but... oh well... reboot time!
(also tends to be y'all ignoring me time...
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This sentence here contains the problem.
You may not notice it... most people will not notice it.
The problem is the family.
A young 9 or 10 year old girl has no concept of sex, has no idea what to expect.
Family provides a few hints, like honor and joyous and it gets easier as time goes by... but nothing like an actual sex education. Way too much taboo.
Family is, typically, also the people who want to marry the girl off, almost like if the girl was property to be sold...
In those days of old, she was property... nowadays, in muslim theocracies (and other places), they still are.
The girl herself has little or no say in the matter - actually, she can get married without even attending her own marriage!!
All this not to even speak about the despicable act of female genital mutilation, still in practice in many places of the world, granted it's not strictly speaking a muslim directive (and is present in non-muslim places/families), but it goes hand in hand with the honor code so beloved by the muslim communities of the world.
It is a cultural thing, marriage... harems seem to be strongly associated with the middle east... where, by design, a few wealthy individuals get to buy females from less fortunate families, while lots of males get none, thus creating a system of sexual frustration which necessitates a few rules...
And you know where to find rules? ... Al qur'an.
(also tends to be y'all ignoring me time...
)(July 18, 2015 at 5:03 am)huss88ein Wrote: Well I have been asked by a member about this and I told him that the age of marriage differ from time to time and from place to another .
If you ask me it is not unethical to get married if u reach the age of puberty for both sex and with of course the consent of the two people involved and their families.
This sentence here contains the problem.
You may not notice it... most people will not notice it.
The problem is the family.
A young 9 or 10 year old girl has no concept of sex, has no idea what to expect.
Family provides a few hints, like honor and joyous and it gets easier as time goes by... but nothing like an actual sex education. Way too much taboo.
Family is, typically, also the people who want to marry the girl off, almost like if the girl was property to be sold...
In those days of old, she was property... nowadays, in muslim theocracies (and other places), they still are.
The girl herself has little or no say in the matter - actually, she can get married without even attending her own marriage!!
All this not to even speak about the despicable act of female genital mutilation, still in practice in many places of the world, granted it's not strictly speaking a muslim directive (and is present in non-muslim places/families), but it goes hand in hand with the honor code so beloved by the muslim communities of the world.
(July 18, 2015 at 5:03 am)huss88ein Wrote: And it is not just me saying that take a look at Texas law for example it says the same thing so why aren't they bad people.
http://statelaws.findlaw.com/texas-law/t...-laws.html
so the marriage issue is relative and not the same in everywhere and in islam it is the same thing but where judged and criticized because our law comes from a holy book .
It is a cultural thing, marriage... harems seem to be strongly associated with the middle east... where, by design, a few wealthy individuals get to buy females from less fortunate families, while lots of males get none, thus creating a system of sexual frustration which necessitates a few rules...
And you know where to find rules? ... Al qur'an.
