(April 22, 2014 at 4:13 pm)Losty Wrote:(April 22, 2014 at 3:47 pm)FlyingNarwhal Wrote: For the most part I think a lot of relationships have the illusion of 50/50, but someone defers mainly to the other person. It doesn't have to mean they are all 99/1 but I think 50/50 is something that is incredibly, incredibly unlikely. I think banking on being in a 50/50 relationship is like scratching lotto tickets in hopes that you can retire on the winnings. Both people in the relationship are different, even if they do share common interests/goals/likes/dislikes they will eventually come across things they disagree with and one person will get it their way most of the time. It's like if your walking down a narrow hallway and someone is coming the opposite way. When you meet you both move left and right to try and get out of eachother's way but just end up moving in the same direction and blocking the path of the other. In reality the simple solution is for one person to take charge and say "You stand on this side" so you both can keep moving.
Hmm this has been very interesting.
What about someone who is dominant all the time. It their career, their school, the rest of their family. They always have to take charge. Someone who is highly intelligent and won't hesitate to be a leader.
But the one most important relationship. The intimate one. They simply choose to relinquish all control to their partner. Maybe they like to be submissive all the time with that person. Maybe they enjoy it. Maybe it's just a break for them.
Are these people less respectable?
I personally don't care how others choose to live their personal lives. Whether they're submissive or dominant or equal in their personal relationships is irrelevant (unless I'm their partner :p)
I decide whether or not I respect someone base on how they treat other people. What kind of choices they make when it actually affects other people.
There's something to that, I'll have to rummage around for the article but I thought I remembered reading somewhere that a large portion of dominatrix's clients are powerful men. They are looking to act submissive to escape from having to be the dominant force all the time.
