What level of dominance/submission do you expect from a romantic partner?

[J a c k]

I've changed. I changed a lot in the last year. I used to like the whole sub/dom thing, even outside of sex (moderately), but after real life things that have happened recently, no. As soon as someone tries to behave dominant, it triggers me and I just want to walk away. I don't want to be controlled, manipulated, or governed. Fuck that.

When it comes to sex... I'm not sure if I still like it (sub/dom) because my life is pretty much sexless right now. As a matter of fact, men in general creep me out when it comes to sex now and I can't stand their smell. I kind of want to be with someone that I can spoil and treat her great. Take her anywhere she wants and feed her whatever she likes. Lol! Cheesy stuff. Heh. Doesn't sound exciting, but I'm aware of real life consequences of being treated like shit, and I don't want to treat anyone like that. Having said that, I don't think all people who dominate treat their partners like shit. I just associate any control with obsession and selfishness and I run from it. Creeps me the hell out.

Maybe it's a phase. I don't know. For now, the ropes can stay in the closet.