Science proves that you should un-friend your ex on Facebook

[Tino]

I left my missus a few years ago, had my fb page peppered with bs from our eldest and pm's from her. We're back together(9yrs total, 3yrs since split which was 2 months-ish). If it happened again, i'd unfriend her and my eldest without thinking twice. There's my anecdotal evidence

Seems to confirm.

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My ex and I are still friends on fb. I've deleted him 5 or 6 times now, but after a few weeks of deletion, he calls me up and talks me into accepting his friend request. He doesn't cause me much trouble there, and he never really has. I've deleted him because I don't like having him in my feed, and I don't like him having access to my posts, though now that I've adjusted my security settings, the problem is solved. I still have a lot of feelings for him, and he is still very much in love with me, we're just grown up enough to know we don't work. We have a 3 year old son together, but we made an open adoption plan, so we don't have to communicate for that reason. I am the only one who has access to our son, as he has burned his bridges with the adoptive parents, so I do send him pictures, give him updates, etc.

Honestly, he's still my best friend. He calls me once a week, usually on Fridays. I'm expecting his call any minute, actually. He lives in South Carolina, so it's not like he can just pop over any time. The last 3 times I've gone to SC, to visit my son, who lives a town over from him, I've managed the will power to not visit him at all. That hurts his feelings, but we're those people who can't be in a room together without someone getting pregnant, and it's just not good for either of us. I don't know when we will be able to have a face to face again, so for now, facebook to facebook will have to do.

Good job on the willpower. Your experience seems to confirm the article, as in "Facebook surveillance exacerbates feelings of distress over the breakup, as well as inducing more negative feelings. It also increases feelings of sexual desire and longing for the ex-partner (all of which leads to the "why the hell are you doing this to yourself" category of post-breakup questions)."