RE: Oh dear god. . .
February 13, 2013 at 5:29 pm
(This post was last modified: February 13, 2013 at 5:39 pm by WitchSabrina.)
(February 13, 2013 at 4:02 pm)Violet Lilly Blossom Wrote:(February 13, 2013 at 11:10 am)Alternate Wrote: I'm sorry, but you could have told me that my only two apparent settings were "whining" and "sucking up" when I asked on this forum previously why people tend not to like me. I was serious there; I really did want objective reasons for why I continue to fail in personal relationships of every type.
It's not just you. You're practically a woman... personalizing everything I say about wide swaths of people
Quote:I'd say these count as objective reasons. Note to the forum in general; I prefer honesty to gilded chantings of "be yourself."
Is there anything else anyone would like to say?
Honestly: be yourself. Even if you're like this serial rapist hooker... if you are that and are just lying to yourself and us? Stahp.
(February 13, 2013 at 12:28 pm)WitchSabrina Wrote: Hey - using my picture without my permission? huh? huh?
(sooo kidding with you)
but yes.....evil witch........ I'll answer to that.
(If only to cause a stir with christians)
my bad
Don't need the parenthesis stuff.
Do you see me using them?
*noted*
It's a habit.
(February 13, 2013 at 5:26 pm)Alternate Wrote:(February 13, 2013 at 4:02 pm)Violet Lilly Blossom Wrote: It's not just you. You're practically a woman... personalizing everything I say about wide swaths of people
Honestly: be yourself. Even if you're like this serial rapist hooker... if you are that and are just lying to yourself and us? Stahp.
That's easy to say. People actually like you. Can you imagine how you'd feel if, after about twenty years of being yourself, there was not a single person in the world who cared about you? If every single person who you'd tried to get close to had ended up thinking of you as some sort of pathetic freak?
For the record, I've been myself during my entire life. I've been myself on this forum. I just have a "self" which people don't like.
I think it's impossible to not internalize that kind of thing. It would be ridiculous if I blamed the entire world for my problems, so I must be doing something to cause them. I just don't know what, because it's not something obvious, like me being a serial rapist hooker.
I "converted" my account today in an effort to piss people off enough that they'd stop worrying about how I felt and start insulting me with ad hominem attacks. I did this because I can't think of any other way to figure out what's wrong with me. Every single forum I ask on just says "Be yourself." I have no friends to ask. My family doesn't want anything to do with me. My (former) psychiatrist had no idea.
And I'm quite sure at this point that people are going to be more irritated by this comment than sympathetic, because I spent all day pissing people off and whining.
And now I have to end this comment, because my tears are messing up the scroll-pad on my laptop. I'm not kidding.
Ok - I'm a Mom - and a grandmama - so I'll help tackle this from a mom's pov if you like? You don't know me. I don't know you so we can start fresh/from scratch. I have no forum history with you here.
What seems to be the problem? If you had to describe You as others have done so - what did they say? What's up? Do you not like yourself very much? Sometimes that really is the issue. 'Cause when people don't like themselves they cannot see others liking them either. Happens all the time. Maybe you focus on not being liked too much instead of just going ahead and jumping in conversations with other people?
And sometimes people just straight up think too much hon. Not uncommon either. Like I said - I don't know you - but maybe just cut yourself a break. Lighten up a notch. Roll with the punches. Find things about yourself that you DO like. A little positive affirmation goes a long way.... a bit of confidence. Learn to make jokes and take a joke. Humor can make life SO much easier at times.
If you're an attention whore and will DO anything for attention- like whine/moan/ complain and take things personal all the time --- you realize that wont help anything right? I'm sure you've seen people pull stuff like that on internet forums before. *shrug* Life doesn't have to be so bad - it really doesn't. Be kind and accept kindness, joke a bit and relax a Lot. Give it all a little time. And remember - not everyone fits in everywhere. This may not be your niche (?)
common........... life's not so bad. Really.
*smile*
It'll be ok.
