Feeling pretty gutted

[MTL]

Thank you, Rhonda, for that heartfelt message.

you are absolutely right that there is no point in constantly being "decent" to people
who only take advantage of it,
and then give you indecency in return.

As to what you mentioned, about your father being willing to be the "bad guy",
I read a good quote, like that, on the internet, once.

It said:

" If someone hates you for no reason...

...then give them a reason. "

However, at this point, I've decided she is a narcissist or a sociopath or something,
and I'm just going to cut her out of my life.

I like your new pic, btw!

A zillion kudos to you taking charge of your life.

You're sister is not used to this from you and she won't like it. so the fuck what? My husband asked me why I was leaving him. I told him, "I'm tired. I'm tired of the arguments. I'm tired of the abuse. I'm just tired." He said, "That's just what I'm talking about, baby. All that's going to stop." I said, "I know it's going to stop because I'm getting out of here."

It's your life, MTL. You don't give other people the power to decide when you will start being happy.

I'm sorry to hear you went through such bad stuff, yourself.

You're absolutely right on every point.

thank you again.