In the summer before my final year of graduation (BS in electronics), about 40 years ago, I had the chance to go to Nantes (West of France) as trainee for 2 months.
It took me 1 month to realize that a male visitor looking for a (male) friend in Nantes is as bad as a male visitor in my city Aleppo is looking for a girl as a friend. Naturally, I concluded if I like to have a friend in Nantes it should be a girl. So after this great discovery
I presented myself to the first French girl I saw (in the restaurant of the company I was visiting, Electricite de France) who had a good looking (to me in the least). We became friends till she had to leave, after about 3 weeks, for a camping holiday outside the city. She invited me since the first day to her mother's house (his father passed away a few years earlier).
My point is: What people thinks is right in their environment could be real bad in another place and vice versa.
At that time I didn't know first that all young male colleagues in the offices I was visiting thought I have to be gay for looking for 'male' friends (I used looking for local friends, male not female, anytime I visit a city in my region). Fortunately, a French citizen told me that clearly and ended my confusion. On the other hand, I disappointed, without my intention, my friend in Nantes because I tried to please her in many ways but sexually. Fortunately she understood my reason. She was a very beautiful girl. also educated, whom I didn't imagine to meet even in my dreams But, unlike most men I met, I prefer not to live 'temporary' special moments which I may never live again. This used helping me have a stable balanced life while being free and independent. We like or not, there are always trade-offs in life and one cannot get everything; in the human jungle, there is nothing for free
It took me 1 month to realize that a male visitor looking for a (male) friend in Nantes is as bad as a male visitor in my city Aleppo is looking for a girl as a friend. Naturally, I concluded if I like to have a friend in Nantes it should be a girl. So after this great discovery
I presented myself to the first French girl I saw (in the restaurant of the company I was visiting, Electricite de France) who had a good looking (to me in the least). We became friends till she had to leave, after about 3 weeks, for a camping holiday outside the city. She invited me since the first day to her mother's house (his father passed away a few years earlier).My point is: What people thinks is right in their environment could be real bad in another place and vice versa.
At that time I didn't know first that all young male colleagues in the offices I was visiting thought I have to be gay for looking for 'male' friends (I used looking for local friends, male not female, anytime I visit a city in my region). Fortunately, a French citizen told me that clearly and ended my confusion. On the other hand, I disappointed, without my intention, my friend in Nantes because I tried to please her in many ways but sexually. Fortunately she understood my reason. She was a very beautiful girl. also educated, whom I didn't imagine to meet even in my dreams
But, unlike most men I met, I prefer not to live 'temporary' special moments which I may never live again. This used helping me have a stable balanced life while being free and independent. We like or not, there are always trade-offs in life and one cannot get everything; in the human jungle, there is nothing for free
