(July 31, 2017 at 4:31 pm)SteelCurtain Wrote:(July 31, 2017 at 4:22 pm)pocaracas Wrote: My question was more on the lines of, those men who do not give in to that "men are gonna do what they do" mentality should expect most women around them to assume that they are those who "do what men are gonna do".
What can we do? How can it be shown to these people that such assumption is grossly misplaced?
We can do it with our actions. I believe anyone who knows me for any amount of time would be pretty sure I'm not one of those guys. I don't announce it to them. To me, with the little insidious shit that women have to consider with most of their actions every day --- (if I raise my voice at my employees, will they just see me as a bitch?, how do I tell my boss that I should make as much as this dude who demonstrably does less?, do these people see me as a spinster because I'm not married in my 30s?, etc etc etc) --- if I have to deal with some of the slack from typical asshole douches every day, I can handle that.
And if you're not provided with that amount of time?...
There will be little investment made... so not much lost on your part. You'll know what you are while they won't... they're the losers in that story. Still, it's a shame that we have to operate under that unfair assumption.
