(July 31, 2017 at 4:22 pm)pocaracas Wrote:(July 31, 2017 at 2:42 pm)SteelCurtain Wrote: Or... recognize that we can think about how our actions will affect others before we do them. At its root, this is the backlash against PC culture. The idea that I should be required to consider my actions before I act.
Everyone should consider their actions prior to carrying them out... it's called being an adult.
My question was more on the lines of, those men who do not give in to that "men are gonna do what they do" mentality should expect most women around them to assume that they are those who "do what men are gonna do".
What can we do? How can it be shown to these people that such assumption is grossly misplaced?
I would say that most men are not the "men do what men do" kind of men. But it's safer to assume that they are until you know otherwise. It doesn't mean accuse them or mistreat them, it just means be wary and keep your guard up. I used to send naked pictures out to people a lot until someone shared my pictures with a total creeper who then messaged them to me with a video of himself masturbating even though I didn't know him and he'd never spoken to me before. Now I operate under the possibility that anyone could and might share my pictures and I don't send them anymore.
Or another example, I won't be alone with any man in my office at work. Most of the men I work with are surely great guys but the risk of even one of them being a "do what men do" kinda guy is too high for my tastes.