(March 9, 2019 at 10:12 pm)tackattack Wrote: If people are ignorant of something. I don’t think it really helps to point out ignorance. I’ve spent a life trying to help other people with their problems, just to come to the realization that you can’t change anyone. It just doesn’t work or improve a situation to state their deficiencies. What does seem to gel is inspiring a thirst for change in someone else, so they can meet you at the point they are willing to listen. </2 cents>
That's a hard lesson to learn. You may have learned it far younger than I . took me a very long time to realise other people have no obligation to live up to my expectations.
Sometimes hard to realise whose needs one is trying to meet; one's own, or anothers.
I worked as a Lifeline telephone counsellor for 2 years (voluntary ,they train you) Lifeline here is a non directive service run by thee Uniting Church; the emphasis is always on what the client wants.
It came s a shock to realise that most callers, no matter what their issue, had no serious intention of changing. People will choose comfortable misery rather than face change which frightens them..
There was one exception: suicide callers. When a person admitted to have taken what they believe was a drug overdose. The approach was to find out were and get an ambulance to them, staying on the line until the paramedics arrived. I only had to do that once. I found it a shattering experience, once it was over, I collapsed in a pile of tears. A common reaction, I discovered later.,
