Oh we've talked about it plenty. I explained what kinds of situations make me feel most frustrated. I've told her what I will say and do when I feel we're getting to that point. I'm much more patient with her, and she's much more understanding of the ways in which we can / can't communicate well.
She's also seen the other side of rage-- like the time I ran into an abandoned building to confront some gangster who was roughing up what I'd assumed to be a prostitute. If I wasn't enraged, I couldn't have acted that way-- and he wouldn't have let me. I'd have to ask her specifically, but I think she understands that there's a gorilla in me that comes out sometimes. And I might be wrong-- but I think most wives have seen something like that, and know that about their husbands as well.
I should point out, by the way, that I've never hit my wife, ever. I'm not shouting "You burned the fucking macaroni again!" and beating the shit out of her.
She's also seen the other side of rage-- like the time I ran into an abandoned building to confront some gangster who was roughing up what I'd assumed to be a prostitute. If I wasn't enraged, I couldn't have acted that way-- and he wouldn't have let me. I'd have to ask her specifically, but I think she understands that there's a gorilla in me that comes out sometimes. And I might be wrong-- but I think most wives have seen something like that, and know that about their husbands as well.
I should point out, by the way, that I've never hit my wife, ever. I'm not shouting "You burned the fucking macaroni again!" and beating the shit out of her.
