In support of the rage of man

[Athene]

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I didn't throw a TV at my wife.  I vented on the TV instead-- there was no point at which she was in physical danger.  But it was still a loss of control, and I didn't like feeling that way.  I now choose to avoid confrontation completely, and I think that's a pretty good choice.

As for seeking help-- I'm in Korea.  I don't have resources available to me that I'd have in Canada or the US. Your words do hurt a little, though.  "He won't do anything, he doesn't really want to change."  I've specifically described some of the changes I've made, and you never asked if there were others. Literally the only social contact I have is with people in this forum.  Nothing toxic there, thank god!  

But I know what counseling would tell me-- keep a journal of my feelings, figure out what triggers me, and avoid situations that are likely to make me feel frustrated.  Put that pent-up energy into something more productive, like a good long run.  Listen to relaxing music, distract yourself with some entertainment, or otherwise clear out your mind, don't drink alcohol or stimulants.  These are all things that I do, because I'm actively engaged in the process of feeling good and trying to live better every day.

What you're assuming is that in describing an incident that happened about 10 years ago, and in talking about male rage in general, it's never occurred to me to research the issue.  In fact, I haven't been enraged in quite a while-- because I am in fact taking those steps that I can.  For someone in your position, I'd say that kind of prejudice is pretty dangerous.  You are quick to demonize, but didn't ask any of the right kinds of questions first.  Whatever you think your credentials are, you might want to consider going back to that training manual for a refresher, because I'm pretty sure you're not following protocol right now.

And this is kind of what this thread is about-- you don't know anything about what was said, or why.  You don't know anything about my feelings or how I've tried to address them, but you're already giving your "expert" opinion.  As soon as you hear that a man was angry, ever, you've got the word "abuse" on mind.  You've got me all figured out, hey?

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Poor bennyboy. You're the real victim, as usual.
You're just trying live better and folks are being to mean to you.
 
Let's forget that up until a few pages ago you were campaigning for others to start accepting acts of violent, uncontrollable man-rage as "natural" and thus, men should not be made to "feel bad" or be punished for it; Lest we find ourselves subjected to even more violent rage on account of men like you becoming "frustrated" at not being granted the freedom to shit on others without consequences, of course.

LMFAO....The little games of psychological manipulation and emotional blackmail that work with your wife, aren't gonna work out her in the wild, benny.
You ain't paying anyone's bills, and no one's in love with your ass.