(April 1, 2019 at 9:59 pm)Belaqua Wrote:Who is remaining in an abusive marriage good for...the abused or the abuser?(April 1, 2019 at 9:14 pm)bennyboy Wrote: Maybe it's just me.
Going just by what you've said on this forum, I don't see you as a dangerous type. The main thing is that you are self-aware and thinking about the issues.
There are people who come to this site every day and act verbally aggressive. They think this is good. They are happy with what they do. Calling you names is how they make the world better.
Much better to be self-aware and self-critical than to preen oneself by aggressing anonymously.
The cheap psychoanalysis isn't serious. It's just a method to get at you.
I've also noticed how easy it is to bring up divorce, or suggest that your wife should have left you, etc. It's so easy to give shallow advice when it's someone else's life we're talking about. This is something foreigners notice about America -- relationships are cheap. Everybody now has multiple stepmothers and stepfathers and a string of serial "monogamous" live-ins. It seems like the whole country is an episode of Dr. Phil or Cops, with a small remainder belonging on My 600 Pound Life.
Not that divorce is always bad, but staying and working and giving up something are not things that seem to be valuable any more.
Knowing you are a rageball isn't fixing things if you decide to claim it's normal.
“If you are the smartest person in the room, then you are in the wrong room.” — Confucius
