In support of the rage of man

[LadyForCamus]

There is so much wrong with this, Benny...

No doubt.  But I think it's less wrong than risking a serious confrontation, or leaving the kids abandoned.

We go to work, we pay the bills, we take good care of the kids.  Sometimes, just functioning like that has to be good enough.  This idea that if you aren't feeling fully realized as a human being, you should walk away from important relationships, leave your kids, change towns or whatever-- that's just not my view of it.

Maybe in the future things will get better.  Maybe our business will take off and we can spend a little time in the Bahamas and patch things up.  Who knows?  But for now-- I will just have to turtle down for a while and keep showing up on time for work.

I don’t think that society, in general, views folks with impulse control issues as doing it on purpose, or being generally “okay”. You mentioned women with PMS in your OP. Have you ever heard of PMDD?  It’s The Hulk version of PMS,and it’s treated with medication. If your impulse control issues negatively affect your own functioning, and negatively affect the wellbeing of others, that’s a problem. It doesn’t matter what gender you are. If I’m raging at my husband and punching walls for three days out of the month, I don’t expect him to make excuses for me simply because I’m the physically weaker of the two of us. I expect him to say, “this seems like something more than just hormonal moodiness. Maybe you need to talk to someone. This isn’t good for the family.” It’s just not cool, like it’s not cool to throw TV’s past your wife’s head. She could have been hurt accidentally. I guess I’m just not seeing the rational here behind why you think society should be more accepting of violent behavior at all; regardless of its source. 

I’m sorry to hear that things are not well in your marriage. Perhaps when the kids have flown the coup you guys can seek some counseling. ❤️