In support of the rage of man

[Acrobat]

Things like anger, and rage need moderation and self-control. We shouldn't say it okay that you don't have self-control, just like you shouldn't say it's okay for children to throw tantrums. You shouldn't reward bad behavior, or just be permissive towards it either.

Society, family and friends, telling you it's not okay when you rage out, or lash out on them, is part of what helps us gain self-control. I have to learn moderate my rage and anger, or I'll risk destroying my marriage, my friendship and family. It may be hard work, but because I love them, it's worth it. It's that constant voice, that reminds me when I feel like raging out, "hey man it's not worth it, you'll end up making things worse not better. "

The predominant opinion in this thread seems to be that an adult is expected to have self control, and that a lack of self control, especially if it affects others, is a moral failing.  The attitude seems to be that if you can be enraged, you don't care enough about your loved ones or other people in your environment to bother fixing yourself.  Is this really how people think the human mind works?  It seems pretty Biblical to me: God gave us free will, and those who use it for ill are culpable, because obviously it's their fault for being that way.

In 100% of other cases I can think of, it's understood that however people behave, it's because something about their brain or their learning made them that way.  But if a man can't control his temper-- he's a monster.

I don't see it like that, or in particularly moral terms. I'm just saying that without some degree of self control, or even a desire to control your temper, you'll just risk damaging your relationships, friendships, marriage etc...

I don't think it's something you can magically fix in an instant. But if you're of the opinion, that everyone should just accept your temper and anger issues, then nothing's going to change. But if you're of the attitude where you want to get things under control, don't want to damage you relationship as result of your resentment and anger, then it's possible over time that you will get it better under control. If you cared enough you would keep trying, and trying harder, where as if you don't care at all you're not going to bother. 

And I say this as person, who has anger issues of his own, that makes me pretty toxic. I probably would have lost my marriage, damaged my friendships, family etc.. if I didn't get it under control, and luckily those that loved  me were patient enough to put with me while I did. They were the motivation for change.

I think it's also important as others have suggested to figure out where all this anger stems from as well.