In support of the rage of man

[Yonadav]

 . I'm just saying that without some degree of self control, or even a desire to control your temper, you'll just  
 

This is exasperating to me. I mean, fucking duh. Why the fuck are we talking as if it has been suggested that there should be no self control are even the desire to self control?
 
Without self control or even the desire to control our temper? Oh fucking tell us more, wise sage!

Benny exercised self control. He attempted to open his release valve. He was blocked. This is exactly like the driver who attempts to swerve, but their passenger puts their hand on the wheel and prevents the swerve.

Anger and rage doesn't disappear by magic. It is abated through coping mechanisms. You fucking idiots keep acting like blocking the coping mechanism is a minor point. It's not a minor point. It's the primary point. If Benny's wife had not blocked him, Benny would have just gone for a walk. 

You can't prevent someone from opening their release valve, and then think that their anger should magically go away. If you think that you can do that, then you really do believe in magic, and you are the one who should probably get help, because you are too delusional to handle reality.
 
Sure, some sort of Jedi might find a release valve no matter how many release valves they are prevented from using, but why should anyone have to fight so hard just to use their own fucking right to self determination, and open their own fucking release valve?

Benny is a pretty good guy who doesn't want to blame his wife for his loss of temper. But you know what? He's never going to have this entire situation 'resolved' if he doesn't accept the facts. He needs to assert his right to use his coping mechanisms. The guy has a basic human right to go for a fucking walk to cool down, and his wife was an absolute dick about not letting him do that.

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I am 99.9% certain that once I tell someone that I want to leave, they are violating the law if they won't let me past them. They don't have to threaten me. They don't have to have a weapon.

For the last time, not letting someone go requires an act of MORE than merely standing in a doorway and saying "No, I'm still talking." 

Unless perhaps, said person is massive enough to block the entire width of the doorway AND there are no other means of exit in the entire house except for that one goddamned door. 
Then you'd probably have a case.

Telling someone that they can't leave because you are still talking is aggression. You are blocking their right to walk away, and you are asserting a right to continue making them angry. You need to check your privilege.