In support of the rage of man

[bennyboy]

I meant, in a broader sense, not choosing to seek help for a pattern of losing control so as to minimize harm to one’s self and others. 

Any time instinct subverts the (illusory?) agency of will, there's a problem that is likely only solvable by serious self-inspection, probably under guidance of a 3rd party. If you compulsively overeat, you really need counseling and a lot of professional support. But people usually will pretend to themselves that they don't-- they'll "start tomorrow."

If you choose a sexy moron as a mating partner, you are fucking up your entire life and ruining your parents' life time of personal and financial investment in you. You need help, but are almost certainly going to tell others to mind their own business.

I think there are two kinds of people-- those who live life perfectly and have fabulous and rewarding lives, and actual people. And the reason actual people don't have perfect and fabulous lives is that ALL of us lack necessary control in some part of life. It's a personality thing.

Some lacks of control manifest in very obvious ways, like in grown men throwing TVs, and some of them just seem like a collection of unlucky decisions. But without some Biblical sense of Evil and the failure to fight it off, I'd say that the ways in which we each lack control are pretty much a roll of the dice.

The Christians have a saying I like: "There but for the grace of God go I." Given a tiny change in DNA, or in brain structure, or given some unfortunate events in youth (mother drinking alcohol during pregnancy, abusive step-father, whatever), any one of us could be a death-row inmate, or a serial killer, or a Republican.