(October 1, 2011 at 12:00 am)salty Wrote: I'm not talking about shame in a biblical sense. I'm a woman and if I was pregnant, it was unplanned, I was unmarried, it's kind of embarrassing that my uterus announces that I gave my body with no commitment. These days unmarried pregnancy is normal, people don't look down on people, shame is something personal, you won't feel it if you're not concerned about what happened, but many mothers do. A man wouldn't understand because he doesn't have to carry a symbol of sexual intercourse, called pregnancy, like a woman does.
Salty, I am going to try to remain really calm, but it's hard. I have given birth to 4 children. I was married to my best friend from January 20, 2002- August 30 2010, when AIDS stole his life at age 39. We never had sex because he was gay. I had sex with lots of guys though. I have 4 children by 3 men. I am not the least bit ashamed of myself, and why the fuck should I be? The only people who would pass judgement on me are people like you. People who are warped, and because of their archaic, backward religious values, can't seem to understand that fucking is what humans do, and HUMANS are the one's who invented distinctions like marriage.
I work at a women's clinic. I counsel pregnant women all day. I see about 80 women a week. ALL are christians, ALL are unmarried, and almost all of them are seeing me for their pre-abortion mental assessment. Here I am, an atheist and what did I do when I had an unwanted pregnancy? I gave him to some lovely, wealthy, intelligent atheists... of course. I love him very much and it was the hardest thing I have ever done, but I've been keeping track, just for fun. Out of 100 women I have seen. 96 of them claimed Jesus as their lord and savior. 88 of the 96 had abortions, 4 miscarried before they could make up their minds, and 4 chose adoption.
So you see why I don't by your bullshit. You should be ashamed of yourself for judging people whom you know nothing about.
You try to play it off here like you don't, but I see through you. Oops.
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