Why does everyone hate me?

[Aegrus]

Okay, so the title was a bit of a dramatization. Most people don't hate me. I don't think. . . :/

To business. . . I've noticed that no matter how nice/brave/supportive/funny I am when talking to people via Emails, forums, and in person, people just tend to not answer anything I send or say and just kind of ignore me. Even when I'm getting along really well with someone, all of a sudden they'll just stop talking to me. I assume I must be doing something wrong, but I lack the perspective to figure out what.

It's been like that for pretty much my entire life. Both online and face to face, people just really don't consider me a friend or boyfriend or anything. People have said that I'm nice, that I'm polite, that I'm a good friend, that they enjoy being around me. But their actions don't reflect that. I'm quite used to it at this point, so I'm not going to get all emotional about it. What I'm wondering is this:

In the time I've been here on this forum, has anything about me just randomly struck you as odd? Do I seem unusual? Granted, I haven't been greatly active on this forum, but maybe I can still learn something from asking this. I really just want to know what it is about me that makes people not care.

[houseofcantor]

People have said that I'm nice, that I'm polite, that I'm a good friend, that they enjoy being around me.

There you go. Be an asshole, and the world is your oyster.

[Oldandeasilyconfused]

In the time I've been here on this forum, has anything about me just randomly struck you as odd?

You mean apart from narcissism? No,you fit right in.

[fuckass365]

Tldr





















Sorry, had to. ;p

[Aegrus]

In the time I've been here on this forum, has anything about me just randomly struck you as odd?

You mean apart from narcissism? No,you fit right in.

Really? Do I usually come off as narcissistic, or just in this post?

[Napoléon]

Sounds like you're suffering from paranoia or depression?

Just be who you are dude. If you try and change the way you are then it's not natural, and you won't feel any better for it (trust me I've tried it myself).

[fuckass365]

Just be who you are dude. If you try and change the way you are then it's not natural, and you won't feel any better for it (trust me I've tried it myself).

This. Just be who you are naturally. If someone doesn't like you because of it then they're not worthy to begin with. I don't know you but you seem like a cool dude.

[Faith No More]

I think you're just reading into things too much.

[Jackalope]

+1. Be yourself. Don't worry about it.

[Aegrus]

Look, thanks to all the replies, but I've been trying to be myself and just not worry about it for 19 years. In that time, I've made literally two friends, most days I don't talk to them, and I've never even had a date. I feel lonely and miserable every day. The "be yourself" sentiment hasn't worked for me so far. I think it's time for a change.