Do you support the legalisation of polyagmy and polyandry

[TaraJo]

Dude, reading your post leads me to believe that you think the 3-on-3 poly marriage would be just one big sex fest. The reality of relationships is there's a lot more to it than sex. I mean, I enjoy sex with my boyfriend, but if there wasn't something else there, we would have broken up a long time ago. If we didn't have something else between us, there's no way us living together would ever work out.

You claim that plural marriages would somehow hurt the children, but you have yet to show any good evidence for that. It honestly sounds like you're making assumptions with no evidence to support them and claiming them as fact. I'm quite familiar with these tactics; they've been used against me, personally, on a regular basis for the great majority of the past four years. Know what else? They're just as full of shit now as they were back then.

The closest I can find to the 3-on-3 marriage you mentioned would be the more communal families you often see out there from immigrants from poorer countries. You'll have something like 12 people living in a 3 bedroom house. Know what? Those highly communal families have a lot of advantages over our more individualistic culture.

[Mystic]

It's true people 5 women and 5 men can decide to live together and raise a family without marriage, but right now it's looked down upon by society. I want to keep it that way. I don't want it become normal. When you say "marriage" which is public recognition of this relationship should extend to that, it's bound to become accepted.

Personally I agree with Shiite Islam regarding marriage except for multiple marriages. I think "muta" contract allows youth to marry for a temporary period even when they are not financially stable, and then you have "committed" marriage. Muta however means if there is a child, the man is still responsible to provide for that child. A contract that is binding and both must keep true to it. I don't believe that it's simply about cheating on your partner, but breaking the contract, would be dishonesty and breaking the laws of society. This way, there is less likely to be cheating. And people don't take their cheating simply as hurting the person they are cheating upon, but being condemned by society and breaking the social contract with society.

I don't believe 5 men and 5 women should be allowed to have a family together. The laws of society should prevent it.

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Dude, reading your post leads me to believe that you think the 3-on-3 poly marriage would be just one big sex fest. The reality of relationships is there's a lot more to it than sex. I mean, I enjoy sex with my boyfriend, but if there wasn't something else there, we would have broken up a long time ago. If we didn't have something else between us, there's no way us living together would ever work out.

No I said they can raise a family. But what the hell is romance with 3 on 3 poly? It's one twisted sick form of romance that for some reason has an attractive sexual weirdness to it. But it's disgraceful.

Maybe the religious people saying gay marriage is a red line that might break the foundations of family have a strong hunch of where all this is possibly heading.

It may have nothing to do with gay marriage being wrong, but the argument of sexual freedom and no society should enforce anything in the bedroom type mentality, that might lead society to a disgraceful dishonorable culture.

[TaraJo]

No I said they can raise a family. But what the hell is romance with 3 on 3 poly? It's one twisted sick form of romance that for some reason has an attractive sexual weirdness to it. But it's disgraceful.

Ok, the relationship itself is disgraceful, right? Ok, then, can you tell me, specifically, what criteria something has to meet to qualify as 'disgraceful?'

[Mystic]

Heh, today it's "sexual freedom", "don't enforce your morals on others", tommorow, it's "nothing is disgraceful unless you can mathematically prove it and explain it clear scientific terms that doesn't rely on your emotional sense of honor", don't only keep your sense of honor to yourself people, but you shouldn't believe in a sense of honor unless you can clearly explain it in details.

You know I have to go with what Shephard told his blue scar faced friend (in mass effect) there when he was all confused on what is right or wrong. There is no clear defined terms, and you got to go with your gut sometimes. Shephard couldn't explain why his moral decision was correct from universal principles, but you know what, all those who played the game, I bet almost all felt it was the right decision.

BTW - Play Mass Effect to Mass Effect 3. I promise you won't be disappointed until the final ending.

Well, like I said to Violet, there is going to have be a struggle to change perceptions of society. I stand in the way of 5 on 5 poly.

[genkaus]

Heh, today it's "sexual freedom", "don't enforce your morals on others", tommorow, it's "nothing is disgraceful unless you can mathematically prove it and explain it clear scientific terms that doesn't rely on your emotional sense of honor", don't only keep your sense of honor to yourself people, but you shouldn't believe in a sense of honor unless you can clearly explain it in details.

Why should that be tomorrow? I say bring that state around today.

I see that appealing to emotion is a common trend in all of your arguments - whether it be existence of god, belief in that existence, belief in objective morality or, in this case, polygamy. Rather than going with your gut sometimes, in case of confusion, you seem to use it as your primary mode of navigation.

So, tell me why do you consider polygamy to be disgraceful, dishonorable and immoral? And remember, since you believe in objective morality, saying you just believe it so is not a valid answer. Within the context of objective morality, your beliefs mean nothing unless backed with justification.

And since you have been unable to justify that position, even to yourself, why should you stand in the way of its legalization? Do you think that everything you consider disgraceful and dishonorable should be outlawed? I happen to think that being religious is dishonorable and disgraceful. Should I start petitioning to outlawing religion as well?

[Mystic]

You mean it must inferred from other premises? But moral truths are not always inferred from other premises. Even if they can be justified through premises, a lot of them are believed in without inference.

Humans are then all wrong on all their moral sense if they didn't have detailed explanation justifying any of their morals? They are unjustified on holding to any of their beliefs in morals, because they didn't analyze why they believed it? In this case, when such a person acts according to a belief in a moral, and it is moral, you saying he was unjustified unless he had a complex explanation.

In this case, kids are incapable of any praiseworthy actions. They don't have an explanation explaining why any of their actions are praiseworthy.

Honestly, Genkaus, what I see from Atheists sadly, when debating Theists, is mostly appeal to emotions in reality, and I don't see it from Theists, and I don't think I did it myself often. They resort to mockery for one, often. They constantly assert that they are delusional. And they just ask questions, amount to arguments from ignorance, and if the Theist doesn't have an explanation, it somehow proves he can't possible know. Circular reasoning works because circular works. "You are wrong" etc constant bare assertion.

Evidentialism has been refuted in Philosophy.

I have a question, you have a sense of pride...do you rationally investigate everything you have done till now, compare it to others, attribute a measurement by inference from an argument of how praiseworthy that action should be, then get your sense of pride and justify it?

If you have a method of universal principles that will apply to all morals, and you can prove it, go ahead and show me. I'm willing to listen. Until then, I'm just doing what most humans have done, and you can believe that they had no justified moral actions if you want.

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And since you have been unable to justify that position, even to yourself, why should you stand in the way of its legalization?

There was a few reasons I gave, see the conversation between me and violet.

How would you like it if your mom had several husbands btw? How would you like being raised with 5 on 5 poly for example?

The sanctity of marriage in cultures is there for a reason, even if they never been able to articulate it. Marriage now should succumb to recognizing a 20 on 20 marriage for example?

Is that also alright for kids? 20 men with 20 women, married together?

[Mystic]

As for following religion being disgraceful, you know what opened my mind a bit, is mass effect - mass effect 3. In particular Bane, his character was religious and it made him more honorable in my eyes, even though it is assume from game perspective, that the religion is wrong. And I personally chose with Shephard to read the prayers in that sad moment of the game (for those who played it, they know what I'm talking about).

What I like about games, is they make you see things more clearly often. It's without nationalism, religion, etc, you let go of that bias, and assume the story is true and experience the game as if it's true. You also tend to like the good characters, so you aren't so negatively judgemental.

Same with movies.

[Spectrum]

I said no, because I don't think it is the best environment for the child. Also, most people who would do this are of the Islamic or sexually liberal variant. Neither of those are good for kids, who are better off with stable households.

Besides, if people want multiple partners, they are free to do that in their own home. Why the hell would you want to legislate it, though? What do you gain from that?

[genkaus]

You mean it must inferred from other premises? But moral truths are not always inferred from other premises. Even if they can be justified through premises, a lot of them are believed in without inference.

Then there is no reason to call them moral "truths", is there? At best, they are moral opinions or conjectures.

Humans are then all wrong on all their moral sense if they didn't have detailed explanation justifying any of their morals?

The question of rightness and wrongness would depend on the justification - or lack of it.

They are unjustified on holding to any of their beliefs in morals, because they didn't analyze why they believed it?

Exactly. Because they don't have a justification, they are unjustified. Tautology.

In this case, when such a person acts according to a belief in a moral, and it is moral, you saying he was unjustified unless he had a complex explanation.

Complexity is irrelevant. And how do you determine if it is moral without a justification?

In this case, kids are incapable of any praiseworthy actions. They don't have an explanation explaining why any of their actions are praiseworthy.

Says who? As a kid I could explain why I felt proud the actions I considered praiseworthy.

Honestly, Genkaus, what I see from Atheists sadly, when debating Theists, is mostly appeal to emotions in reality, and I don't see it from Theists, and I don't think I did it myself often. They resort to mockery for one, often. They constantly assert that they are delusional. And they just ask questions, amount to arguments from ignorance, and if the Theist doesn't have an explanation, it somehow proves he can't possible know. Circular reasoning works because circular works. "You are wrong" etc constant bare assertion.

Clearly you do not understand what appeal to emotion means. Mockery, accusations of delusions and assertions of wrongness do not constitute "appeals to emotion" - especially not when prefaced with valid arguments. Atheists only ask questions because they make no claims that they have to defend. And if the theist doesn't have an explanation, it does not prove that he can't know, it simply proves that he doesn't know. The statement of "you're wrong" is usually backed up by ample evidence of why you are wrong.

Evidentialism has been refuted in Philosophy.

Has it now? Please provide evidence.

I have a question, you have a sense of pride...do you rationally investigate everything you have done till now, compare it to others, attribute a measurement by inference from an argument of how praiseworthy that action should be, then get your sense of pride and justify it?

More or less. I don't investigate everything, only the actions I deem worthy of investigation and potential source of pride. I don't compare it to everyone else, but to those in similar endeavors, such as my colleagues or friends. And there is no standard of measurement - just my subjective evaluation.

If you have a method of universal principles that will apply to all morals, and you can prove it, go ahead and show me. I'm willing to listen. Until then, I'm just doing what most humans have done, and you can believe that they had no justified moral actions if you want.

Well, then. Read on.

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"The greatest tragedy in mankind's entire history may be the hijacking of morality by religion." Arthur C. Clark

Hi Everyone,

I know that this topic has been addressed many times and I have seen many good arguments from both sides, but I think I can add something new to the topic. Now, many of the arguments presented below have been presented before, but I haven't seen them being addressed cohesively.

My views on morality are simple. I think that morality is a collection of concepts like mathematics, but one that addresses our actions. I also think that moral judgment should be based on reason and reality and not on emotions or whims. I would be repeatedly drawing on the analogy between morality and mathematics to show that objective morality is not only possible but also applicable to the world we live in. If morality is based on reality, it does not require a God to spell it out, like many of the religiots argue. However, it is also irrational to deny objective morality in order to deny religion's hold over it. After all, we don't accept the argument that logic and mathematics are any less objective if God does not exist (I know that many do present this very argument, but it’s nonsensical since God has never been the premise for either). Hence I believe that morality based on reality would be objective and universally applicable in the same way logic and mathematics is.

The statements given above are my opinions and they have no argumentative value unless I provide a sound reasoning for them. In order to make a good case for Objective Morality I need to a) define the related terms, b) provide sound premises and c) draw valid conclusions.

To have a cogent discussion, I think that the definition of following terms needs to be established.

Morality: Code of conduct based on the knowledge of good and bad. By itself, the definition of morality does not encompass any goals nor does it specify any actions that are exempt from its purview. Like mathematics, it is a tool of evaluation. Where math helps us evaluate physical objects, morality helps us evaluate actions of moral agents.

Moral Agents: A being who is capable of acting with reference to right and wrong. This definition requires that the agent should be able to act according to his judgment and not be bound by his instincts or nature. He can, in fact, act contrary to them.

Moral Code: An individual's understanding of moral concepts. To avoid confusion, I would be referring to descriptive morality as a moral code and normative morality as morality.

Objective: Independent of whims, wishes, emotions or desires of an individual and based on reality.

Subjective: Dependent on whims, wishes, emotions or desires of an individual.

Absolute: Applicable to all individuals and in all situations alike.

Relative/Contextual: Though both are considered to be opposites of absolute, there is a difference. Contextual means dependent on situation and relative means dependent on both situations and individuals. As such, relative can be considered a combination of contextual and subjective.

What I would be arguing for here is the possible existence of objective, contextual morality. Morality is an abstraction, like mathematics and has no physical existence. It exists as a concept and can be objective if it is based on rational premises and applicable to objective reality. I'm not trying to argue that perfect objective morality exists in a Platonean plane of abstractions, that right and wrong have weekly dinner with truth and falsehood, but that this concept can and should be developed.

Now the definitions are out of the way, I'll move to the premises.

1) Life and free will are preconditions for a moral agent. This one seems self-evident since non-live things cannot make moral judgments and neither can things that act according to instinct. Since the term free-will has more meta-physical implications, I think 'liberty to act on one's judgment would be more appropriate. This does not mean that the agent is free to escape the reality in which he acts or free from the consequences of his actions. Also, the ability to make one's own judgment implies a capacity for rational judgment but does not necessitate it.

2) Morality based on rationality would be self-consistent and universally applicable. Since reality cannot be self-contradictory, neither can a purely rational concept which is a derivation of it.

It is usually argued that morality is not purely rational since its concepts depend on emotions and instincts of moral agents as well as on reality. I agree. Currently there is no moral code in existence which is purely rational. Such a moral code needs to be developed by separating the emotional components.

By universal applicability, I'm talking about applicability in the same sense as mathematics. Once the concepts have been developed, they would apply to all actions of moral agents the same way math applies to all physical objects. However, the same way as different concepts of math are applicable in different situations, different moral concepts would be applicable as well.

A little more on universal applicability. A person can only rely on morality to be a guide to his actions to the extent he stays true to his premises. The premises he violates by his actions cannot be used to justify or defend his position as a moral agent.

3) Values. This is the trickiest one and the biggest block of subjectivity that morality has to overcome to be considered truly objective.

Values are the goals of our actions, something that we seek to achieve. They are derived from our physical, mental and spiritual needs and they are what motivate us to act. Whether consciously or unconsciously, everyone holds a structure of values. A person who rationally thinks about his goals and motivations would have a cogent, hierarchical structure. A person led solely by instinct or emotions would only have range-of-the-moment values i.e. things he feels like wanting then and there.

And here's the argument for subjectivity: Since values depend on our desires, they cannot be purely objective. Hence no system guiding us to them can be purely objective.

One of the issues here, I believe, is the definition of subjectivity. While reading something to be subjective, we often assume the words "independent of reality" added to "dependent on an individual's mind". This is usually done by proponents of objectivity who do not want to let in any arbitrariness in a matter as important as morality. This point is the difference between a qualified belief and just a belief.
If my belief in evolution was just a belief, independent of objective proof, my position would be no more valid than a creationist. But the basis of my belief is not my desire to believe in evolution but the overwhelming proof in favor of it. Similarly, you can hold purely subjective values, i.e. independent of the world you live in or you can base your values on your objective needs.

Maslow has been of a lot of help here. He has given us an hierarchy of objective needs which can form a base for us to derive our values. Values derived rationally and exclusively from this structure would be objective and achievable by the tenets of objective morality.

SO, are purely objective values possible?

Yes. Clearly Maslow has proven that.

Are purely subjective values possible?

Yes.

For most people, values are neither purely objective nor subjective. Overall, their value structure corresponds to Maslow's hierarchy of needs, but it is also influenced by their personal preferences.

So, does that mean that objective morality is absolutely impossible?

No, it does not. Objective morality does define any inherent goals, the same way math doesn't define any inherent goals. You may choose to calculate the probability of getting an ace in the next poker hand or you may choose to get the Fourier transform of a sine wave, the concepts of math are equally applicable and it does not make mathematics any less objective. And it does not preclude mathematical concepts from applying to the desired result. You may set out to prove that 2=3, but you cannot, not unless you violate one or more of the underlying principles. Similarly, your goals or values may themselves be rational or irrational, but that does not mean that the concepts of morality are open to subjective alteration.

Further drawing on the math analogy, there may be many methods to achieve your desired goal. Methods that yield answers closest to the desired result are better than those that don't. There may be different methods that are equally applicable and you have to choose between one of them. Methods that violate the mathematical premises cannot be right. And you may stay true to the premises, yet mistakenly use inapplicable concepts. In all these cases math hasn't suddenly become subjective because your subjectivity has never been a part of the premise.

Summing up the last premise. morality does not tell you what to want, it tells you if what you want is right and what is the right way to get it. In other words, your desire for a value itself is not the basis for morality, but the rational evaluation of that desire is. This is why introduction of subjective values as goals for your actions does not make morality subjective.


Phew. That was long. I think most of you must have given up. If you haven't I would once again like to remind you that these are the concepts required for developing morality. If I were to summarize my premises, I would say that a life where the agent has the capacity rationally choose his values and the actions required to achieve them, is the premise of morality because that is the situation where it is applicable. If any of the factors i.e. life, value, choice or capacity of rational choice are missing, the concepts of morality would not be applicable. But if all these concepts are applicable, the person cannot choose to forgo the moral responsibilities of his actions.

I'm not sure, but there may be additional premises which I may have missed.

Having laid out the objective premises of a moral code, here are some of the conclusions which form a part of my own moral code and can be included as tenets of objective morality.

1. Since life and liberty are preconditions for a moral agent, not moral action can violate these premises. Hence, actions like slavery, murder and rape are objectively wrong. This tenet, I think, overcomes one of the shortcomings of the golden rule. If it is good to do unto others as I would have them do unto me and I do not mind being murdered, then am I morally justified in killing as many people as I can before I'm gunned down? The answer, by my conclusion, is no, it is still objectively wrong.

But I think I need to qualify this conclusion a bit more. While I think I know the conditions required to qualify a being as a moral agent, I still haven't figured out if there are any disqualifying conditions. I would like to conclude that if the goals or actions of an agent violate the moral premises, he is no longer a moral agent; at least to the extent he has violated the premises. According to this conclusion, death penalty for a murderer or jail for a criminal are morally justified actions. But, as of now, I have no irrefutable rational justification for this conclusion.

2. The question of who owns your life is also answered by the first premise. For you to be held morally accountable, you must be responsible for your own actions. This is not possible if someone else owns your body and mind. And since you are responsible for your actions, you should own the product of your actions. Hence, whatever I have produced by my labor and my mind, I get to keep it. I may choose to give it away for something better or I may choose to give it away, but that should be my choice. If someone else takes it away by robbery or fraud, that person is acting immorally. Once again, this applies so long as I haven't violated any of the moral premises while creating or utilizing the value.

3. Given that your life is your own and for your own purpose, you are free to choose the purpose and have to take the responsibility for your actions as long as neither of them invalidate the premises of morality i.e. stand up to the standards of objective morality.

4. Morality can be divided in three parts- legal, social and personal. The legal morality would be completely objective and exist to make sure that rights of one moral agent are not violated by another. It needs to determine if one moral agent’s rights i.e. the preconditions required for his existence as a moral agent have been violated by another. This morality is a negative code of conduct, in the sense it tells you what you cannot do. Social morality refers to the general principles of interaction with others. Since a person cannot exist in isolation, social relationships are of value to him. Following the principles of social morality, such as benevolence, decency etc. help you achieve and keep these social values. However, these rules are not enforceable by the society. The only thing you would lose from not acting in accordance to them would be those social values. Personal morality is the moral code you apply to your daily life for the achievement of your own values.

5. Here I would like to insert an example for contextual vs. subjective morality. Suppose I live in a society where being atheist is considered a sin. If people find out you are an atheist, you would be ostracized. But for me, living an honest life is of greater value than any social relationship, so I do not hide my sinful proclivities. Hence, I’m a social pariah. For another person the order of values is in reverse i.e. he’d rather live a socially secure life than an honest one. So he’d rather lie to everyone around him and live among them. Now, since both of us behaved rationally and made the most logical choice according to our value structures and since the right choice for each was the opposite of others, doesn’t that mean that morality is subjective?

No, it does not. First of all, since objective morality needs to be completely rational and a moral concept that dogmatically ostracizes a belief system is not, that particular moral tenet would never make to the concepts of objective morality. Further, inclusion of an irrational concept into the society’s moral code would prove that it is at least partly and probably greatly irrational. However, let’s assume that that particular tenet has somehow made its way into the moral code and is now a part of the reality. After all, you have to act within the context reality has provided you.

Remember when I talked about how the evaluation of values plays a part in forming the premise for morality. Well, the same applies to forming a value structure. Here, I can just go with my gut feeling of what is more important to me or I can perform a rational cost-benefit analysis of which would be better for me. Any other details of my life, such as the attitude of my family and friends, the aspects of my life in the society, would form the context of the issue. And if I have performed all these calculations reasonably, I can be sure that the other person would make the same choice if he was in my situation i.e. had the exact same context as mine. And if I make a mistake along the way or risk making a mistake by letting my emotions factor in, I would end up making a wrong choice and my life would be worse for it. Of course, I could have gone with just my gut-feeling and ended up making the right choice anyway, but which way do you think is better?

As to the question itself, I cannot answer it, since I have never been in that situation and hence am incapable of knowing the complete context. What I can say is, for two rational guys to have such opposing value structures; the context of their actions would be very much different. And that is a fact of life. No two situations or individuals are exactly the same, which is why a choice that was right in one context, is wrong in another.

Here I listed some of the general principals of objective morality. My own moral code, which I hope has been correctly derived from it, has some of the following tenets.

1. My values are subject to moral judgment. Hence I cannot morally justify any actions taken to achieve immoral values. Hence my goals cannot include subjugation of people or murdering someone.

2. Morality does not guarantee achievement of all my values. This is why a cogent hierarchy is required. And while values can be generated automatically, I must strive to discard any values with irrational or contradictory basis. This is not always possible, but that is no excuse not to try at all.

3. Living happily is of value to me. Since living in a free and benevolent society is conducive to it, creating such a society is a derivative value. To the extent that any action taken to create such a society does not contradict any of my higher values, I must do so.

4. I must strive to act rationally in all situations. Since I am only human, it may not be possible all the time since I’m constrained in knowledge and time. I will definitely make mistakes and make wrong choices. To the extent it is possible, I must try to correct them afterwards.

One final word on emotions. With all my talk about rationality, it must seem like I’m suggesting that human beings should be two-dimensional robot-like creatures who do not feel. That is not the case. I’m against using emotions as a basis for our actions. First of all, the cause of emotions is largely unknown. It may be due to random neurological transmissions in our brains, but the consistency with which we feel them towards different things, I believe that they are based on our subconscious. And for most of us, out that is a mass of irrational contradictions and definitely does not from a good basis to guide your actions.

Secondly, emotions are usually a response to a stimulus, for example the prospect of losing something you value would incite fear. Since most of us create a value structure subconsciously and hence irrationally, we associate specific emotions with gaining or losing that value with the intensity of the emotion corresponds directly to the importance of what was gained or lost. Thus emotions provide a great tool for evaluation. Hence the argument is not that that a perfectly rational being would be incapable of emotion, but that his emotional responses to events would correspond to what he should rationally feel. He would feel happier after making a right choice and he would feel guilty after making a wrong one. I believe that if a person completely internalizes a rational and coherent moral code, he’d discover that his first emotional response to an event would correspond to what objective morality would prescribe his response to be. In fact, I think I can give an example supporting this. Take religious people, whose moral code is usually a mass of irrational contradictions. But having grown up with it, they have internalized it completely. Which is why their first response upon seeing something that their code describes as evil, is disgust and hatred. I don’t think that they have to run to their holy book to check up on their facts, they know it almost automatically. Even if it is proven to them that their moral code is irrational and they are shown what the rational choice would be, they still feel disgusted by it because of their internalized moral compass. Now, if a rational person happens to have internalized an objective moral code, he can be reasonably certain that his emotional response while making a choice would indicate whether the choice is rational or not. In this case, he can safely use his emotions as a basis for his actions. In such a case he wouldn’t require a great deal of time and thought to evaluate each and every choice, his emotions have already him a hint as to what the right choice is.

I feel like I ended up arguing more in favor of rational morality rather than objective morality. But from what I have read, objective, by the virtue of being dependent on reality, is almost certainly rational, whereas with subjectivity, there is no such certainty. This is why I think that rational morality must necessarily be objective.

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I think I've posted this somewhere in this forum as well, but its too much trouble to search and that thread would be dead by now anyway. Awaiting your replies.....

There was a few reasons I gave, see the conversation between me and violet.

How would you like it if your mom had several husbands btw? How would you like being raised with 5 on 5 poly for example?

If I actually grew up in such a scenario, I guess I'd be okay with it.

The sanctity of marriage in cultures is there for a reason, even if they never been able to articulate it.

Well, articulate that reason and I'll consider your argument.

Marriage now should succumb to recognizing a 20 on 20 marriage for example?
Is that also alright for kids? 20 men with 20 women, married together?

I see no problem in it. Takes a village and all that.

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As for following religion being disgraceful, you know what opened my mind a bit, is mass effect - mass effect 3. In particular Bane, his character was religious and it made him more honorable in my eyes, even though it is assume from game perspective, that the religion is wrong. And I personally chose with Shephard to read the prayers in that sad moment of the game (for those who played it, they know what I'm talking about).

What I like about games, is they make you see things more clearly often. It's without nationalism, religion, etc, you let go of that bias, and assume the story is true and experience the game as if it's true. You also tend to like the good characters, so you aren't so negatively judgemental.

Same with movies.

Never played the game - so most of your argument is meaningless. And as far as movies go, I tend to find religious characters to be contemptible. So, where should I start petitioning for outlawing religion?

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I said no, because I don't think it is the best environment for the child. Also, most people who would do this are of the Islamic or sexually liberal variant. Neither of those are good for kids, who are better off with stable households.

Really? I would have thought that multiple parents would be better for kids. Kids who are raised in communal environment (with many parental figures - always someone there to look after them and take care of them when biological parents are unavailable), tend to do better socially. Plus, a household with many people supporting it may even be more stable than just two. Also, sexually liberated parents would mean easier puberty.

Besides, if people want multiple partners, they are free to do that in their own home. Why the hell would you want to legislate it, though? What do you gain from that?

Because they aren't free to do that in their own homes. Partnership is about more than just sex.

[Ryantology]

Unless there is substantial and legitimate data linking polygamy to criminal acts I reject that as an argument against its legal recognition.

You can dress it up however you like but it really boils down to "I don't personally like it therefore nobody else should be allowed to do it because I insist that society conforms to my personal tastes".