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Not coming out, but not hiding it anymore

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Not coming out, but not hiding it anymore
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RE: Not coming out, but not hiding it anymore
June 23, 2013 at 8:53 am
I am heterosexual so I can't entirely relate to where you are with your coming out but I sort of can because I am in exactly the same place as you in regards to my atheism. I am 40 and have pretty much been in the closest about my lack of belief my whole life. My immediate family knows I am an atheist because we are all atheists (both my parents are atheists) but all the other people in my life don't really know. They know I never mention any belief in god, never go to church and never do anything "christian like" but I have never been open enough to just tell people straight up that I am an atheist either. As of right now though I am really sick of actively hiding it so I am right on the verge of being completely open and out and I am no longer "hiding it". If asked I will be honest. Completely honest. And just let the chips fall where they may. If are my friend now but then find out that I don't believe in your god and suddenly decide I am not worthy of your friendship solely based on that, well then I figure you were never really my friend to begin with.
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RE: Not coming out, but not hiding it anymore
June 23, 2013 at 10:56 pm
I'm proud of you miss IvySmile I'm also perplexed as to how that speaker was allowed to do that with you guys..seems illegit Thinking
If I were to create self aware beings knowing fully what they would do in their lifetimes, I sure wouldn't create a HELL for the majority of them to live in infinitely! That's not Love, that's sadistic. Therefore a truly loving god does not exist!

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RE: Not coming out, but not hiding it anymore
June 23, 2013 at 11:10 pm
Congratulations on being more open. I wasn't open about my lesbianism until 3 years ago, when I got my first girlfriend. Then I realized I didn't care about the opinions of anyone small-minded enough not to accept me, I didn't want to work anywhere where I would be fired for being gay, etc. Hell, I'm in Birmingham, Alabama, and I've rarely gotten negative reactions. Arizona can't be as bad as Alabama, can it?
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RE: Not coming out, but not hiding it anymore
June 24, 2013 at 2:15 am
missluckie, in behavioral health almost everything seems that way. lol the things we do and say always seem elegit.

futile... my first girlfriend was at 19. I'm 28 now. It's been a while.
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RE: Not coming out, but not hiding it anymore
June 24, 2013 at 2:15 am
Well I have not told my parents, but I am Bi myself. I knew for some time, I also understand a person sexual orientation is in a scale rather than black and white. It is getting easier, but since my friend circle being most christian I have to hide myself. But I am in a wonderful relationship with a beautiful girl.
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RE: Not coming out, but not hiding it anymore
June 24, 2013 at 2:47 am
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good for you, blad! Congratulations. Hope she makes you very happy Big Grin
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RE: Not coming out, but not hiding it anymore
June 24, 2013 at 7:11 am (This post was last modified: June 24, 2013 at 7:17 am by Rahul.)
I got to tell you guys one of these days my experience at the local gay bar where my wife almost beat down some gay guy.

That was a fun night.

That guy was relentless.
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