When family members start to go.
July 2, 2013 at 4:30 pm
(This post was last modified: July 2, 2013 at 4:32 pm by Something completely different.)
I have a grandmother who in recent years has been starting to behave more and more weird. There are the obvious flaws, such as her switching her TV on a volume which makes it impossible to have a normal conversation even in a nearby room and which also makes it possible to hear what she is watching from outside the house. Obviously that is a problem which all old people have.
But in recent years her behavior is starting to go berserk. On various different occasions she left the stove on after cooking and almoust set her place on fire. Her understanding of hygene started to disolve aswell. The bathroom has such a disgusting smell that it is impossible for others to use it. Everything is untidy and dirty, especialy the kitchen. Worst of all is how her eating habits changed to deep freezing everyedable thing and conserving masses of food whilest mostly eating really greacy stuff which she usualy bought fresh.
My grandmother is a strange personality within my family. My mother hardly ever talks with her, neither do her sister and brother despite my brother living in the same house with her. She didn`t treat her children that well and her behavior is generaly compareable to that of a spoiled fat kid who always insists on being right and who behaves overly insulted when being corrected.
As such I noticed how this situation evolved and how she became more and more isolated. Members of the family hardly want anything to do with her and she is becoming to be more and more isolated.
My grandmother also adopted 2 kids after her 3 other kids had grown up, I guess she did that to somehow redeem herslf for how she treated her other kids because those regulary visit her and seem to enjoy being in her presents. My releation to her was a rather strange one, I alway saw her as a weard drama queen who was often nice but who often used me as a tool to present herself as the loving grandmother infront of others. Especialy infront of my mother, which she probably did on purpose to hurt her.
And now with her getting older and older and devolving into a less and less reasonable state I kind of watch this situation and really dont know what to think. I feel a certain aura arround her within my family, a kind of very present yet hiden attitude of "she gets what she deserves".
I am just there as a bystander, not wanting to be involved in a mess I didn`t create, but at the same time feeling weird for not wanting to be engaged with what is supposed to be my family.
I somehow felt like writing this when I came home.
But in recent years her behavior is starting to go berserk. On various different occasions she left the stove on after cooking and almoust set her place on fire. Her understanding of hygene started to disolve aswell. The bathroom has such a disgusting smell that it is impossible for others to use it. Everything is untidy and dirty, especialy the kitchen. Worst of all is how her eating habits changed to deep freezing everyedable thing and conserving masses of food whilest mostly eating really greacy stuff which she usualy bought fresh.
My grandmother is a strange personality within my family. My mother hardly ever talks with her, neither do her sister and brother despite my brother living in the same house with her. She didn`t treat her children that well and her behavior is generaly compareable to that of a spoiled fat kid who always insists on being right and who behaves overly insulted when being corrected.
As such I noticed how this situation evolved and how she became more and more isolated. Members of the family hardly want anything to do with her and she is becoming to be more and more isolated.
My grandmother also adopted 2 kids after her 3 other kids had grown up, I guess she did that to somehow redeem herslf for how she treated her other kids because those regulary visit her and seem to enjoy being in her presents. My releation to her was a rather strange one, I alway saw her as a weard drama queen who was often nice but who often used me as a tool to present herself as the loving grandmother infront of others. Especialy infront of my mother, which she probably did on purpose to hurt her.
And now with her getting older and older and devolving into a less and less reasonable state I kind of watch this situation and really dont know what to think. I feel a certain aura arround her within my family, a kind of very present yet hiden attitude of "she gets what she deserves".
I am just there as a bystander, not wanting to be involved in a mess I didn`t create, but at the same time feeling weird for not wanting to be engaged with what is supposed to be my family.
I somehow felt like writing this when I came home.
