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I have an issue opening doors
July 24, 2013 at 8:40 am
You know when you meet an atheist (or a Christian/Muslim/etc. for our theist members out there) that makes you ashamed to call yourself an atheist (or a Christian/Muslim/etc.)
The other day my dad ran into a lady that made me ashamed to call myself a feminist.
He graciously opened a door for her and she turned around with an insulted expression. "What!? Do you think I can't open doors?" she exclaimed.
I decided that this is a good opportunity for me to "come clean". I have an issue with doors.
- I push doors that I should pull and pull doors that I should push
- Sometimes I use too much force and sometimes too little.
- Sometimes doors have a hidden "open device" that you need to utilise before the door will allow you to open it.
- When I eventually get the door open I sometimes hurt myself (it's usually my head or toe that suffers) or I stumble through dropping anything I was carrying.
- The scariest of all is the "invisible door" that stops you in your tracks (giving you a nice bruise on your forehead) without any warning
I blame years of gaming where it didn't matter how powerful I became I still required the assistance of an NPC to open the door for me.
This post isn't a plea for guys to open doors for me. I'm fully aware that I traded that right in when I asked to be treated equally. It's a good trade if you ask me.
What it is a plea for:
- To the lady who spend years practising opening doors and finally mastered it: I'm aware that it can be frustrating if you can't show off your skill to other people when a guy opens the door for you. But please spare a thought for those of us who has not reached "Door opening 1.0" and be kind to the guy.
- To the other people out there: If you see someone struggle with a door that you were about to go through, step up and help them (the same way you will hopefully help someone who is carrying a lot of things). He/She might just be a gamer boy/girl who is trying to get from point A to point B without the help of a NPC.
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RE: I have an issue opening doors
July 24, 2013 at 9:00 am
I don't see opening doors for women as sexist. I'll often open a door for someone whether it be male or female. It's just a kind gesture to another person.
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RE: I have an issue opening doors
July 24, 2013 at 9:01 am
(July 24, 2013 at 8:40 am)ITChick Wrote: To the other people out there: If you see someone struggle with a door that you were about to go through, step up and help them (the same way you will hopefully help someone who is carrying a lot of things). He/She might just be a gamer boy/girl who is trying to get from point A to point B without the help of a NPC.
Conversely, why not sap and pickpocket them? They shouldn't have let their guard down in a contested zone.
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RE: I have an issue opening doors
July 24, 2013 at 9:07 am
I open doors for everyone too, male or female. Its not a sexism thing its just common courtesy.
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RE: I have an issue opening doors
July 24, 2013 at 9:15 am
May God never test a man's faith with a door.
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RE: I have an issue opening doors
July 24, 2013 at 9:18 am
I open the door for women when I want to look into their cleavage
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RE: I have an issue opening doors
July 24, 2013 at 9:21 am
(July 24, 2013 at 9:18 am)The Germans are coming Wrote: I open the door for women when I want to look into their cleavage
I generally stare in open space, especially in cases of women, because the women here are very sensitive, they do not like to be looked at especially by someone like me.
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RE: I have an issue opening doors
July 24, 2013 at 9:26 am
Dude, just wave your wallet around while you stare. Totally works. The plus side is that every so often you run into a hooker.
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RE: I have an issue opening doors
July 24, 2013 at 9:28 am
(This post was last modified: July 24, 2013 at 9:32 am by Cyberman.)
I know I've said this before, but I'm the perfect gentleman when it comes to this sort of thing. I always hold a door open, before walking through it; I always pull out a chair before I sit on it. I even make it a point of principle to let ladies go first every time. Well, you never know who or what's lying in wait, do you? Best to send someone in ahead to see if it's safe.
(July 24, 2013 at 9:21 am)kılıç_mehmet Wrote: I generally stare in open space, especially in cases of women, because the women here are very sensitive, they do not like to be looked at especially by someone like me.
I definitely get the last part (I wouldn't like that either); but if the ladies don't like being stared at, they shouldn't stand where my eyes are looking.
That's my defence anyway, Your Honour.
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RE: I have an issue opening doors
July 24, 2013 at 9:31 am
(This post was last modified: July 24, 2013 at 9:32 am by Whateverist.)
My sense of door etiquette calls for me to hold the door open for the person coming directly behind me regardless of their sex. If someone approaching a door ahead of me is loaded down with packages, then I'll race ahead and get the door (or offer to if there isn't time to do so before they reach it). So anyone struggling with a door would generally get some help as well but I'm not sure I'd always know if they didn't ask for help. @ the OP, are there any signs I should watch out that would alert me that someone was in need of a little door chivalry? Or is it up to the rescuee to make their need known?
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