Relationship Standards

[Zazzy]

I am a smoker, and some people just really, really hate the smell of it. That's understandable. If it turns you off, it turns you off.

Also, if you are thinking of having children with someone, smoking women are a problem. If they can't quit during the pregnancy, that's bad. If either Mom or Dad keeps smoking after children happen, then they're seriously raising the risk of dying young and leaving the other partner. I know a couple right now who are seriously on the outs because she quit smoking during her pregnancy and has totally quit- and he's still doing it, and she's furious that he's doing something she can't do because of THEIR kids, and that he's raising his risks of screwing up all of their lives with a dangerous behavior. It's a real problem in an otherwise great marriage.

I enable him sometimes and then I feel really bad about it.

[Jiggerj]

It's your life, your standards. As a smoker, I wouldn't want a non-smoker whining about me smoking all the time. So, it's all good.

[Angrboda]

I suppose like any other trait, the smoking question is up to you. I've known non-smokers who had no issue with loving a smoker. I'm an ex-smoker myself, four years quit. I don't mind the smell of smoke. I rather love it. Up until last winter, my best friend was a smoker, and I was quite glad when she'd smoke around me, because I got to vicariously smoke by way of the smell. However, if I met someone who smoked, even if they were interested in me, and I wanted them otherwise, I wouldn't date them. Smoking, the lifestyle, is nasty and dirty and unpleasant. Clothes smell. Apartments smell. Everything smells. I used to smoke in my car and even though I was a heavy smoker, I disliked the smell. And people who smoke are less healthy, often more sick, and given the health risks of smoking, odds are if you aren't a smoker and they are, you will end up burying them, probably after a long, painful bout with cancer or emphysema or heart disease. I'm sorry, but I see a lot of negatives in loving a smoker, and no real compensating positives. I have nothing against smokers and I'm not particularly averse to the smoke itself, or the occasional or transitional smell. But I don't want to lose my heart to someone for whom that is the probable and likely experience of loving them, knowing that once you start to love, odds are that you aren't going to stop loving them unless something else stops you.

[Whateverist]

I've had exactly one girlfriend who smoked, probably my third or fourth lay. There were reasons to like her and, hell, my mother smoked. But then there was the fact that not only did everything in her life smell like smoke, she herself tasted of it - everywhere. The taste if you aren't doing it can be pretty nauseating. There was no way I'd do that again. Yuck.

[Deckard]

I demand a woman to have a full quota of internal organs and be the same blood type as me... And that her dad owns a pub...

[Fidel_Castronaut]

I am a smoker, and some people just really, really hate the smell of it. That's understandable. If it turns you off, it turns you off.

Also, if you are thinking of having children with someone, smoking women are a problem. If they can't quit during the pregnancy, that's bad. If either Mom or Dad keeps smoking after children happen, then they're seriously raising the risk of dying young and leaving the other partner. I know a couple right now who are seriously on the outs because she quit smoking during her pregnancy and has totally quit- and he's still doing it, and she's furious that he's doing something she can't do because of THEIR kids, and that he's raising his risks of screwing up all of their lives with a dangerous behavior. It's a real problem in an otherwise great marriage.

I enable him sometimes and then I feel really bad about it.

I'm not a fan of smoking, not at all. Saying that, though, when I was an undergraduate I was sleeping with this girl who used to smoke all the time, and it didn't bother me at all. In fact, her lighting up after sex was kind of a turn on for me for some reason.

[Jiggerj]

I demand a woman to have a full quota of internal organs and be the same blood type as me... And that her dad owns a pub...

I have simple needs. I just need a woman that's deaf, dumb, and inflatable. As long as she doesn't squeak or hiss during the Superbowl, I'll love her forever.

[max-greece]

I'd focus more on whether you love each other - the rest is window dressing.

[NoraBrimstone]

I'd never go near a smoker again. It's the least attractive thing a person can possibly do. Not just the foul stench that I can smell a mile off, but they tend to have bad skin, teeth and hair because of it. They cough a lot. Their penises don't get as hard as a non-smoker's. Oh, and the taste of their penis.... It makes your cock taste like it's gone off. I just gagged at the thought lol.

But yeah, as standards go, it's very common for people to be put off by smoking. I've seen several surveys about what people find most unattractive in the opposite sex where smoking has come top of the list by a long way.

[kılıç_mehmet]

Well, speaking in terms of "just dating" , I don't know. I have never had a relationship. However I guess I'd like the person to have similar interests in music, and having dark or some other colour like red, cyan or green, stuff that looks interesting. Also, I'd like someone who has a healthy lifestle. Like doing sports, or going to the gym at least once or twice a week.