The Nicest Christian Girl

[Mister Agenda]

One of the nicest women I know is a Christian and quite delightful. She is currently dating an atheist. Not this one, unfortunately. She's hanging out with someone who has status and talent.

She doesn't think gay people should be prohibited from being married. She doesn't think Genesis is a science text. She's one of the most reasonable people I know.

You have to know more about a person than that they're a Christian to know what they're about.

[Michael Schubert]

sorry, just tellin my opinion

Don't apologize. You were dead on accurate.

[downbeatplumb]

I'm a graduate student studying English at Eastern Washington University, and there is a girl in my French class that I am thinking about asking out. But her Facebook page says she is a Christian, which makes me a little pensive.

What should I do? In the past, I have had women tell me it couldn't work out with us because of the differences in belief. Maybe it depends on how devoted they are to their church. I don't know just how devoted Tiffany (the girl in my class's name) is to her religion, and I also don't know what branch (Lutheran, Protestant, Methodist, Catholic, etc.) she belongs to. My parents have been married for 30 years, and my mom is a Methodist and my dad is pretty much an atheist. Their marriage has been far from perfect (not because of different viewpoints) but it has survived. While both my aunt and uncle are dead now, he was an atheist and she was a Catholic. They were both married for 55 years. So it can work out.



Can you please help me with this? I'd greatly appreciate it.

My wife is a spiritualist, we've been together 23 years and have three kids.

What people believe is only a small part of who they are.

[Fidel_Castronaut]

For most of the theists on this thread (most, not all), it seems their beliefs are more important than their relationships with those around them.

Ignore those people, OP, and their advice. Nobody's beliefs should trump your want to be happy with another person.

If that person can't accept your lack of belief (or indeed the other way around), then really, they need to take a long hard look at themselves and grow up. Life is too short to let a fantasy fairy tale dominate it.

[Raeven]

Not to throw a blanket on the proceedings (so to speak), but here is a more cautionary tale:

My last boyfriend came from a fundie upbringing. He and I got on like a house on fire and it was not a problem between us, but I told him I was concerned how things would be when his family learned of my atheism. He pooh-poohed my concerns and said it would not be a problem. Well, it was a problem.

Up to the point that they learned of it, I was the best thing that had ever happened to him. After, I apparently became a succubus who was after his mortal soul. They badgered him ceaselessly. He was not a person who could withstand such a constant assault, and in the end it was easier for him to jettison me than to stand up to the family (they were all disturbingly close).

So, depending on what you hope to gain from of the relationship, it can be a huge consideration -- and it's not just her opinion that will matter.

[Faith No More]

That's crap short sighted advice. What happenes when you add kids to the picture? One of the primary 'callings' for a Christian is to be united as man and wife and raise a faimly in worship of God. One of the primary 'callings' of an atheist is to point out to a christian how stupid he/she is for believeing in God. What happens when wifey wants to take the kids to church? One of them will have to compromise what he/she believes in order to make the other one happy.

You dipshit. Marriage is all about compromise, which is, in fact, what I have done when my wife wanted to get my son baptized. Our marriage is still strong as ever, and neither of us has "died inside."

There is no way around that, unless one changes. It is far more likly for the believer to be deconverted than for a hard hearted nonbeliever to be converted. Sherbert is going to take away the very thing that makes this woman who she currently is. The only question is, will he or she be able to live the next 50 years with the remaining husk.

Don't you think it's funny that all of the supposed "anti-god" atheists are the ones saying it's not a big deal? It's we heathens that are supposedly so filled with hate towards Christianity saying to go for it, and the only one talking about changing who she is is you. So much for that atheist intolerance.

Religion doesn't have to be the divisive factor in a relationship that you're advocating it is, but I would suspect that someone so obsessed with religion wouldn't understand that.

[JesusHChrist]

Another cautionary tale, my own -

Married my college sweatheart, kids, bought a few houses, a semi-fundy Christian, divorced.

Religion played a large part in the ultimate demise of the marriage.

But, in your case -- hot college chick -- who cares? Ask her out and see who gets to ride who. And where.

[Lemonvariable72]

Tbh with you op, if your just going by Facebook then she could even be a atheist that has her FB set to Christian to avoid drama. You don't know till you dive in.

[Minimalist]

One of the primary 'callings' of an atheist is to point out to a christian how stupid he/she is for believeing in God.

With you its practically a full-time job, Drippy.

[Cinjin]

Michael,

Remember the following four things as you ask her out ...

Christians are stupid.
Christian girls are really stupid.
Christian girls aren't supposed to have sex.
Christian girls suck a lot of dick.



Preacher's daughters however, will let you buttfuck them on their daddy's bible after you snort smack off their tits.
Use caution with the preacher's daughters. Just sayin.

And you call Christianity "Immoral"? I guess you are a Christian.

Ok, first of all Ronedee my signature is mocking ChadWooters signature. You may not be able to understand why but go compare our two signatures and then get back to me, I'll explain the sarcasm in my signature for you.

Secondly,

I'm clearly just pointing out that preacher's daughters OFTEN lean towards the "wild" side.

Thirdly, and I know your god disagrees with this -
Sex is not immorality. Having your dick sucked is not immoral. Doing lines of coke is not immoral although it is very unhealthy and I don't recommend anyone try it. You want to know what immorality is? Immorality is betraying the role of protector and taking advantage of little boys by fucking them in the ass while pretending to be a celibate disciple of Jesus.

Now that I've pulled your head out of your ass for a moment - hows the fresh air smell?