Modern Feminism

[FlyingNarwhal]

For the most part I think a lot of relationships have the illusion of 50/50, but someone defers mainly to the other person. It doesn't have to mean they are all 99/1 but I think 50/50 is something that is incredibly, incredibly unlikely. I think banking on being in a 50/50 relationship is like scratching lotto tickets in hopes that you can retire on the winnings. Both people in the relationship are different, even if they do share common interests/goals/likes/dislikes they will eventually come across things they disagree with and one person will get it their way most of the time. It's like if your walking down a narrow hallway and someone is coming the opposite way. When you meet you both move left and right to try and get out of eachother's way but just end up moving in the same direction and blocking the path of the other. In reality the simple solution is for one person to take charge and say "You stand on this side" so you both can keep moving.

Hmm this has been very interesting.

What about someone who is dominant all the time. It their career, their school, the rest of their family. They always have to take charge. Someone who is highly intelligent and won't hesitate to be a leader.
But the one most important relationship. The intimate one. They simply choose to relinquish all control to their partner. Maybe they like to be submissive all the time with that person. Maybe they enjoy it. Maybe it's just a break for them.
Are these people less respectable?

I personally don't care how others choose to live their personal lives. Whether they're submissive or dominant or equal in their personal relationships is irrelevant (unless I'm their partner :p)
I decide whether or not I respect someone base on how they treat other people. What kind of choices they make when it actually affects other people.

There's something to that, I'll have to rummage around for the article but I thought I remembered reading somewhere that a large portion of dominatrix's clients are powerful men. They are looking to act submissive to escape from having to be the dominant force all the time.

[My imaginary friend is GOD]

It is true that people who are dominant in everyday life tend to be more likely to be submissive in the bedroom and vice versa. I don't have a problem with that. But putting your life in another person's hands that's just as flawed as you are is not respectable, and really rather dumb.

[The Valkyrie]

It is true that people who are dominant in everyday life tend to be more likely to be submissive in the bedroom and vice versa. I don't have a problem with that. But putting your life in another person's hands that's just as flawed as you are is not respectable, and really rather dumb.

I couldn't put my life in someone else's hands in a sexual situation. I agree it's just dumb. I know some people like it. I just couldn't do it. As for the submissive thing, I find I can't let go of control that easily.

For feminism, I prefer to see a relationship as a partnership.

I cringe when I read quotes from radical feminists about getting rid of men.

Prsonal preferences.

I don't like pink. I LOVE dressing up in nice dresses and, occasionally, high heels.

[FlyingNarwhal]

It is true that people who are dominant in everyday life tend to be more likely to be submissive in the bedroom and vice versa. I don't have a problem with that. But putting your life in another person's hands that's just as flawed as you are is not respectable, and really rather dumb.

I disagree. In a sexually dominant/submissive relationship, the sub places a lot of trust in the dom by relinquishing her control of the situation. In return the dom has free range to do as he wishes, but his ultimate goal is to fulfill both his own and the sub's sexual desires. He could focus solely on himself, but that would make him a bad dom because you are not giving your partner any reason to continue this type of relationship. The sub trusts that her dom intuitively knows what she finds pleasurable and what she does not.

Same applies to a regular dom/sub relationship. Again the sub puts trust in the dom that he will do what is in her best interest.

[bennyboy]

It is true that people who are dominant in everyday life tend to be more likely to be submissive in the bedroom and vice versa. I don't have a problem with that. But putting your life in another person's hands that's just as flawed as you are is not respectable, and really rather dumb.

If that's what you need to do, that's what you need to do, no?

[My imaginary friend is GOD]

It is true that people who are dominant in everyday life tend to be more likely to be submissive in the bedroom and vice versa. I don't have a problem with that. But putting your life in another person's hands that's just as flawed as you are is not respectable, and really rather dumb.

If that's what you need to do, that's what you need to do, no?

Most people don't NEED to do that with their lives. It's not a compulsive behavior like sexual behavior often is.

[The Valkyrie]

If that's what you need to do, that's what you need to do, no?

Most people don't NEED to do that with their lives. It's not a compulsive behavior like sexual behavior often is.

Each to their own, so long as it's consensual and they both enjoy it.

For me, if someone tries to strangle me for his own gratification I'll rip his balls off and dangle them from my rear vision mirror.

[bennyboy]

Most people don't NEED to do that with their lives. It's not a compulsive behavior like sexual behavior often is.

How would it not be compulsive? Someone's sitting around thinking "Hmmm my sex life isn't doing it any more. Maybe if I could get someone to fist me with a cactus with a gun to my head, that would be fun."