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[Clueless Morgan]

I feel your pain: When I was school-aged and living at home I had my sister's bedroom on one side of my bedroom, and the home office on the other, and the living room TV abour 15 feet from my bedroom door. If my sister wasn't keeping me up playing the TV in her room really loudly or having sleepovers then my dad was keeping me up listening to music on the computer with the subwoofer turned to the maximum setting or watching TV with the sound turned way up. Every single night throughout high school I was either telling my dad to turn down the music/TV, or telling my sister to.

It was awful.

After having an awkward college roommate for a year in a single room-dorm, I obtained a sleeping mask and some earplugs.

^^-- This, for sure, even though I hate sleeping with earplugs (wearing them too much hurts my ears).

I had a roommate in college who liked to have people over at night and stay up talking and smoking into the wee hours and I had class at 8am every day. I got earplugs and slept through it all - even one of my other roommates' asshole friends who came over at like 2am and pounded on all our doors to wake us up because he "wanted to meet us." I slept right through it all.

Perhaps... but I said she was knowingly depriving me of sleep because I made it clear to her that's what she was doing, and she continued to do it regardless.

Your sister is being a bitch.

With that said, though, you probably could have handled the situation better. Pounding on the wall isn't that respectful, either, and if you want respect you have to give respect.

Something needs to give. Your parents need to lay down rules about how late friends can be over or when "quiet time" begins at night, and if anyone doesn't comply they can move out.

Is there another room in the house that she could be moved to? Or that you could move into to be further away from her? Do you have a basement room that could become a bedroom?

It's not really a regular occurrence to be honest. The issue is more her inconsiderate nature and complete inability to recognise when she's wrong.

Sounds like she needs to get a dose of tough love - Do your parents regularly defend her and take her side? Did your brother have the same problem sleeping that you did? Could you and your brother calmly and maturely sit down with your parents and discuss the situation?

If this isn't a regular occurrence, I'd say invest in a pair of earplugs and when this happens again pop them in. It's not an ideal solution but it'll do in a pinch.