Creed's Corner: A Collection of the Morbid, Mysterious, and Mrandom

[Faith No More]

This isn't rocket surgery. Do the following and you'll feel better about yourself:

1. Get a haircut. From a barber shop, not a salon or a gay friend.
2. Shave.
3. Dress like a man.
4. Go to the gym.
5. Eat mostly meat, fish, eggs, and vegetables.
6. Stop whining like a girl.

Why don't you wrap your chauvinistic, outdated, insensitive, ignorant bullshit in sandpaper and cram it right up your sheltered, narcissistic ass and sprinkle some lemon juice on it.  I'm sure there's some weight-lifting forum full of self-absorbed assholes that high-five each other over homo-erotic selfies of oiled abs that would be a better use of your time, so why don't you just fuck off. 

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Creed, what kind of financial support do you have from others around you?  Is it possible for you to work less to put more time into yourself?  When I found myself in a similar situation, I basically had to re-build my life from the ground up and re-evaluate everything in my life, especially who I was and how my behavior was fueling my problems.  That required me to take time off of work and just reset myself internally.   Is something like that possible for you?  What are the prospects around you for receiving help?

[Norman Humann]

^ so much kudos.

Alpha male... yup, the username says it all. Fuck you, too.

[Faith No More]

It's called tough love. Look at the guy and read his shit. He needs a kick in the ass and some common sense, not consolation.

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That's not tough love.  That's condescending dickishness in the guise of advice.  Just admit that you don't give a fuck about him and move on.

[John V]

Why don't you wrap your chauvinistic, outdated, insensitive, ignorant bullshit in sandpaper and cram it right up your sheltered, narcissistic ass and sprinkle some lemon juice on it.  I'm sure there's some weight-lifting forum full of self-absorbed assholes that high-five each other over homo-erotic selfies of oiled abs that would be a better use of your time, so why don't you just fuck off. 

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Creed, what kind of financial support do you have from others around you?  Is it possible for you to work less to put more time into yourself?  When I found myself in a similar situation, I basically had to re-build my life from the ground up and re-evaluate everything in my life, especially who I was and how my behavior was fueling my problems.  That required me to take time off of work and just reset myself internally.   Is something like that possible for you?  What are the prospects around you for receiving help?

The bolded part is correct, and is what I'm saying. However, I don't think that taking time off work and sponging off friends and family are behaviors that build character. On the contrary, he'd be better off taking a second or third job. First-world problems tend to go away when you're just too damned busy to dwell on them.

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It's called tough love. Look at the guy and read his shit. He needs a kick in the ass and some common sense, not consolation.

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That's not tough love.  That's condescending dickishness in the guise of advice.  Just admit that you don't give a fuck about him and move on.

Says the guy who had to sponge off others in order to reset his vagina to proper working order.

[Faith No More]

Oh, my god, you're such a fucking idiot. How can you believe in a god that didn't give you any brains?

Mental health issues are not first-world problems. In fact, as disgusting as I find you and your pathetic excuse for a personality, I would never wish upon you the pain and torment that can come with struggling to pull together a functioning psyche and finding some semblance of a normal life. If you ever do have to go through it, however, I hope there's some asshole just like you standing by to piss on you while you're down, so you can then soak in the painful irony of what a fucking douchebag you used to be.

And that's it, folks. I'm done commenting on this waste of resources, or else I'll find myself running afoul of the forum rules.

*washes his hands clean*

[John V]

Oh, my god, you're such a fucking idiot.  How can you believe in a god that didn't give you any brains?

Mental health issues are not first-world problems.

Crying that you don't know who you are is a first-world problem. People who have to work all day in order to eat don't have time for such things.

In fact, as disgusting as I find you and your pathetic excuse for a personality, I would never wish upon you the pain and torment that can come with struggling to pull together a functioning psyche and finding some semblance of a normal life.  If you ever do have to go through it, however, I hope there's some asshole just like you standing by to piss on you while you're down, so you can then soak in the painful irony of what a fucking douchebag you used to be.

I've been through it. Fifteen years of drug addiction and diagnosed as clinically depressed. Semblance of a normal life for about five years. Full life for the past fifteen.

[Faith No More]

I can get my dog diagnosed as clinically depressed if I want to.

Either you haven't experienced the severity that others have and are applying that experience to everyone in an ignorant, simplistic way, or you're just an asshole that likes to pretend he cares by being a condescending dick. Or maybe you're just too dumb to realize that the things you're saying only serve to hurt a person that needs help. I've seen tough love. I'm a big fan of tough love. This is not tough love.

I truly find it hard to believe that you have any experience in mental health issues(and if you did, clearly you weren't intelligent enough to extrapolate any useful information from those experiences) given that your "tough love" amounts to nothing more than "man up," an approach that no person who has spent a significant amount of time in the mental health community and has even a drop of empathy would ever use.

[John V]

I can get my dog diagnosed as clinically depressed if I want to.

Yes, such diagnoses are bullshit. You're learning.

Either you haven't experienced the severity that others have and are applying that experience to everyone in an ignorant, simplistic way, or you're just an asshole that likes to pretend he cares by being a condescending dick.  Or maybe you're just too dumb to realize that the things you're saying only serve to hurt a person that needs help.  I've seen tough love.  I'm a big fan of tough love.  This is not tough love.

Ah yes, you know all, and my experience just couldn't have happened.

I truly find it hard to believe that you have any experience in mental health issues(and if you did, clearly you weren't intelligent enough to extrapolate any useful information from those experiences) given that your "tough love" amounts to nothing more than "man up," an approach that no person who has spent a significant amount of time in the mental health community and has even a drop of empathy would ever use.

Wow you're dumb. The suggestions I gave are indeed used by the mental health community, they're just worded in a less than tough manner. If you knew squat, you'd know that:

- exercise
- eating right
- keeping up your appearance
- keeping active
- challenging negative self-thought

...are pretty common suggestions for depression and some other conditions.

But I guess you're sold on better living through chemistry and don't want to hear anything else.

[Joods]

Creed,
My heart goes out to you. I get it and it sucks. Thank you for being brave enough to put your feelings out here and for sharing. If you ever want to talk, PM me. I'm usually around.

For what it's worth, my hubby is no longer allowed to go hunting without having two or more people with him. Last year I found out that while out hunting with a friend, he said he was going to kill himself, then he took off for two hours. Of course, I didn't find out about this until a week after it happened, but nonetheless, I keep an ever watchful eye on him now and I had a close friend of ours take all of the guns out of the house and I hid the ammunition. Depression sucks. I've been there.

You aren't much of a talker irl and no one has the right to demand that you change for them. If your ex was aware of this prior to taking your friendship to a new level, then she should have been prepared to help you, be supportive and encourage you. Not put you down and demand that you make changes for HER happiness.

Do what works for you. Do what makes YOU happy. No one else can make you happy. Only you can do that. They can ADD to your happiness, but if you are already down, no amount of happy coming from another source is going to permanently fill the void. Some days I struggle because it's been over six months since I've last seen my oldest child. I am miserable and I am sad and hurt. It's not her fault though. She has a guardian (my ex) who has alienated her from me completely. Now, I can either dwell on that fact or I can try and do something about changing the circumstances. I choose change because I want my child home.

Inner strength and peace is hard to come by when there are constant negatives in your life. Hang in there. Try to think of positive thoughts and try to do what makes you feel good inside. Being a quiet person isn't necessarily a bad thing. It looks like you were more than willing to put forth serious effort in your relationship, but she wasn't willing to give you the time YOU needed to accomplish that. Nor does it seem that she was all that willing to be as supportive as she should have been. Lean on us here. Most of us care. I care.

Sending you virtual hugs today. I hope you feel better soon.

[Faith No More]

Wow you're dumb. The suggestions I gave are indeed used by the mental health community, they're just worded in a less than tough manner. If you knew squat, you'd know that:

- exercise
- eating right
- keeping up your appearance
- keeping active
- challenging negative self-thought

...are pretty common suggestions for depression and some other conditions.

But I guess you're sold on better living through chemistry and don't want to hear anything else.

Yeah, those are good suggestions, when you word them that way.  Even the dumbest simpleton in the mental health community knows that the approach is as important as the message, and using words that imply that someone's problems are for not conforming to some archaic stereotype is Dr. Phil level stupid.

And when have I ever stated that Creed should turn to medicine and drugs?  Oh, that's right, you're a fucking idiot...