Some thoughts about my girlfriend's sexual past

[MJ the Skeptical]

I had no idea he was a troll but what does that matter? I'm not asking for a virgin, just someone around my experience level. Why is that some crime? fuck off

Why do you think that anyone here wants to deny you that?

Apparently I'm being shamed for what I like, so you tell me.

[Alex K]

Your first entry in this thread was calling everyone a hypocrite. Unless the OP is a sock of yours, no one was shaming you, and if the OP is your sock, you are not being shamed for preferring partners with not so much previous experience.

[MJ the Skeptical]

Everyone who thumbed that comment up is a hypocrite, since they are shaming him for the same thing he's doing. If he doesn't want a promiscuous girl, who the fuck are you to tell him he should accept that? it's his fucking life man. I don't see how this a hard concept, pretty simple.

[rexbeccarox]

Uhhhh... he came on here asking for advice. Obviously, you don't know the definition of the word "hypocrite".

[MJ the Skeptical]

You're shaming a guy for his preference, who are you to tell him what he should like in a girl? if he wants a girl with less experience, then who the fuck are you? queen bee? How do you know this girl cares or not if he tells this story? and who cares? if a girl told this story would you care about the guy's discretion? probably not. You got a bunch of thumbs up because you're pandering to the feminist ideology. And honestly I'd be more on your side on this, but not when you tell him how he should think.

[FatAndFaithless]

Ugh..

[thesummerqueen]

Wow. I was really too fucking kind to you in the other thread. I hope this is just your severe anxiety talking.

1) We only got one side of the story from what appears to be a troll post. He could be saying all kinds of shit about her that isn't true.

2) No one is necessarily judging him for preferences - we're judging someone (giving this troll the benefit of the doubt) for having been with her for three years without discussing it if it was that fucking important. I hope you understand why it begins to seem more like penis envy than anything else.

3) If you have to ask why talking about someone in intimate ways without their consent is probably wrong, then we need to have a completely separate thread about consent.

4) You're over-reacting because you happen to align with this person's views out of what I perceive to be your own insecurities, and not out of any real logic, so yeah, people are going to give you shit about it.

[MJ the Skeptical]

Wow. I was really too fucking kind to you in the other thread. I hope this is just your severe anxiety talking.
1) We only got one side of the story from what appears to be a troll post. He could be saying all kinds of shit about her that isn't true.
2) No one is necessarily judging him for preferences - we're judging someone (giving this troll the benefit of the doubt) for having been with her for three years without discussing it if it was that fucking important. I hope you understand why it begins to seem more like penis envy than anything else.
3) If you have to ask why talking about someone in intimate ways without their consent is probably wrong, then we need to have a completely separate thread about consent.
4) You're over-reacting because you happen to align with this person's views out of what I perceive to be your own insecurities, and not out of any real logic, so yeah, people are going to give you shit about it.

What does a different thread have to do with this one? but thanks for exploiting my anxiety issues from another thread, douche alert...

1) I agree, but why can't he have his preference?
2) Sometimes this stuff never comes up, ya know? And if this is a troll post, then who cares right? if it's fake it's fake.
3) Comparing sexual consent to speaking about your relationships is a slippery slope, at worst...
4) I don't align with them, I just happen to think he should have his preferences without prejudice, like you people are saying about the girl how she should be able to fuck who she wants to, which I agree with, but you should also agree that he should have the right to not like that, even if it was never discussed. You can argue whether he should tell his story but if a girl tells the exact same story are you just as outraged? try and pretend you would be, cmon...

[Faith No More]

He's being shamed for acting like sexual history is such a big deal to him when it took three years to actually inquire into his girlfriend's past. He's being shamed for thinking a person's past should dictate who they are in the present. He's being shamed for joining a discussion forum merely to express his distaste for his girlfriend's sexual past. He's being shamed for airing an intimate, personal issue about someone else on the internet.

Stop acting like he hasn't earned a harsh reaction.

[thesummerqueen]

These threads are directly related, so yeah, pertinent information in both of them and all that. In case you haven't noticed, we all reference other threads in order to provide context. Otherwise, had I only paid attention to this thread, I'd just assume you were a douchecopter extraordinaire, and not maybe someone I should have even an iota of empathy and compassion for. Thank goodness for that other thread, right?

1) No one said he couldn't have his preference. No one's holding his head down onto her tits and demanding he continue to fuck her.
2) If it's that important, it SHOULD come up before 3 years have passed.
3) Okay, so we probably should have that thread about consent.
4) No, you don't get to come onto a forum and express your preferences or opinions without your motives being questioned.

And don't put words in my mouth. If a girl came on here and was pissed because her boyfriend of 3 years had a bunch of partners before her, I'd tell her to get the fuck over herself.